Neighbor mowing quirks

[altermetoday]

I have a small paddock in front of my house that borders my neighbors yard. The paddock is between our driveways and the road.

There’s a section of grass between my fence and the road. When I mow it I try to mow all the way to his driveway to o make it look neat. But then if he hasn’t mowed there’s a line across his grass that is different height. I’ve mowed different ways…trying to make the line not as noticeable but unless I mow his entire side there’s a division of mowing lines.

I think he doesn’t like that so now he’s mowing in front of my fence to put the line on my side. Lol. I don’t mind it totally but not sure how to take it.

Would you be annoyed at lines in the grass? Seems weird…i have no choice but to cut the mower deck off at property line or mow his entire yard…he doesn’t have to mow in front of my fence…and quite honestly when he does mow it he leaves it uneven. At least my mowing does a straight line but his tractor is too big so I have a jagged line on my side and it’s not neat

This is so stupid really, but I guess it’s his passive aggressive way of saying he doesn’t like how I’ve mowed. Why can’t people just speak up.

[2DogsFarm]

Why don’t you “just speak up” & talk to the neighbor?

The two of you s/b able to discuss it rationally & come to a solution to the Mine/His lot line problem.
Explain it just the way you posted.

FWIW:
I had a neighbor in the city who shoveled the snow on the common sidewalk up to his imaginary lot line.
Which, if I had done the same, would have left a 6" patch unshoveled.
Easier to just shovel over his imaginary line myself.

[saje]

You could go ask him what he thinks, since you share the road frontage…?

[Minuet]

Our neighbor mows our side of the property too.
Yeah, it annoys me.
He pretty much scalps it too. I thought about asking him to leave it alone because we want to grow it up a little, but I’m not going to.
It’s not worth alienating the neighbors. But yes, it’s irritating.

[altermetoday]

I’ve been mowing this way for five years and all of a sudden this year, its bothering him I guess. If its bothering him, you would think he would say something, wouldn’t you?

He’s never been so passive aggressive about it before and now he’s mowing and leaving my side a mess.

I just kind of find it comical. Things have been rolling this way since I put the fence up and now he’s annoyed? Normally I’d be pretty oblivious to it, but now that he’s making it messy, its obvious he’s annoyed. Why should I say something? lol…he’s the one with the issue.

There is really no good way to solve it unless we both mow at the same time… and I always mow on Wednesday or Thursday if there is rain.

I just find it kind of funny. nothing has changed on the way its been done and all of a sudden he’s annoyed …

[trubandloki]

Why do you think it is bothering him? Because it bothers you? Have you talked to him at all or are you assuming it bothers him?

When I was reading the OP my thought was the neighbor is taking turns with you mowing the part in front of the paddock by the road, how nice. Then I got to the part where you decided the neighbor is being passive aggressive for doing it and how dare he not do it straight.

[QUOTE=altermetoday;8694704]
I have a small paddock in front of my house that borders my neighbors yard. The paddock is between our driveways and the road.

There’s a section of grass between my fence and the road. When I mow it I try to mow all the way to his driveway to o make it look neat. But then if he hasn’t mowed there’s a line across his grass that is different height. I’ve mowed different ways…trying to make the line not as noticeable but unless I mow his entire side there’s a division of mowing lines.

I think he doesn’t like that so now he’s mowing in front of my fence to put the line on my side. Lol. I don’t mind it totally but not sure how to take it.

Would you be annoyed at lines in the grass? Seems weird…i have no choice but to cut the mower deck off at property line or mow his entire yard…he doesn’t have to mow in front of my fence…and quite honestly when he does mow it he leaves it uneven. At least my mowing does a straight line but his tractor is too big so I have a jagged line on my side and it’s not neat

This is so stupid really, but I guess it’s his passive aggressive way of saying he doesn’t like how I’ve mowed. Why can’t people just speak up.[/QUOTE]
Why can’t people speak up…like you for example. Why not simply go over and thank the neighbor for taking a turn at mowing the front.

It sounds like the one making drama and being passive aggressive is you, not the neighbor.

[js]

[QUOTE=altermetoday;8694704]
I have a small paddock in front of my house that borders my neighbors yard. The paddock is between our driveways and the road.

There’s a section of grass between my fence and the road. When I mow it I try to mow all the way to his driveway to o make it look neat. But then if he hasn’t mowed there’s a line across his grass that is different height. I’ve mowed different ways…trying to make the line not as noticeable but unless I mow his entire side there’s a division of mowing lines.

I think he doesn’t like that so now he’s mowing in front of my fence to put the line on my side. Lol. I don’t mind it totally but not sure how to take it…[/QUOTE]

If there is a difference in grass height so be it. I get it looks messy but he isn’t obligated to match your mowing and you shouldn’t be obligated to mow his entire yard just to match your grass height. If he is angry about your fencing that piece of your property, talking to him about his mowing won’t help. Let it go and learn to live with it. Mow what is yours and leave his alone.

[altermetoday]

js - I am leaving it alone… I just wrote this post this morning because I noticed how messed up the mowing job was and put 2 and 2 together that he’s annoyed. I have no plans on addressing his crappy mowing skills on my side of the drivewayright now because i’m planning on mowing anyway tonight or tomorrow.

I just think its funny what neighbors do and what annoys them. It never occurred to me that someone would be annoyed by my mowing. I have noticed before and done different things to make it not so noticeable…but I think it is more noticeable any way I do it because I mow more often than he does

[trubandloki]

[QUOTE=altermetoday;8694788]
js - I am leaving it alone… I just wrote this post this morning because I noticed how messed up the mowing job was and put 2 and 2 together that he’s annoyed. I have no plans on addressing his crappy mowing skills on my side of the drivewayright now because i’m planning on mowing anyway tonight or tomorrow.

I just think its funny what neighbors do and what annoys them. It never occurred to me that someone would be annoyed by my mowing. I have noticed before and done different things to make it not so noticeable…but I think it is more noticeable any way I do it because I mow more often than he does[/QUOTE]

And I ask again. How do you know he is annoyed? Because he did not mow neatly? That means he is annoyed with your mowing?
Is there more to this story or are you simply wanting to make drama?

[altermetoday]

I don’t think i’m making drama…why is it on this board that a poster posts something and everyone jumps on the poster? sheesh!

[Minuet]

OP, I don’t think you’re trying to create drama. I don’t even really think you’re looking for an answer. I’m thinking you are venting.
I honestly understand.
When it happened with our neighbor, at first I thought, well maybe he’s trying to be nice and mowing the part that he THOUGHT was his before we got the land appraised. Less grass for me to mow.
I don’t know, I wouldn’t mow someone else’s property without their consent. But I’ve never mentioned it. And if it came up, I would thank him for doing it. Profusely, lol.

[altermetoday]

[QUOTE=Minuet;8694848]
OP, I don’t think you’re trying to create drama. I don’t even really think you’re looking for an answer. I’m thinking you are venting.
I honestly understand.
When it happened with our neighbor, at first I thought, well maybe he’s trying to be nice and mowing the part that he THOUGHT was his before we got the land appraised. Less grass for me to mow.
I don’t know, I wouldn’t mow someone else’s property without their consent. But I’ve never mentioned it. And if it came up, I would thank him for doing it. Profusely, lol.[/QUOTE]

Exactly… I’m just sitting here scratching my head wondering why/what/when mowing got weird. I don’t really care too much that he mowed my section, but I’ve just noticed that its kind of odd the way he’s doing it. It makes me think he’s annoyed with me.

And quite honestly, I don’t know why I should go knock on his door to ask if he is annoyed with me. the man is never home nor does he respond to my phone calls on his machine. We helped each other dig out this winter in the snow and that is the last time I’ve really talked to him.

I see a lot of neighbor posts here and it makes me wonder sometimes the dynamics of things… we have property and its not like we are on top of each other. I’m pretty darn quiet and almost never have people over. so its just me and the animals who are very low key as well.

[trubandloki]

[QUOTE=altermetoday;8694845]
I don’t think i’m making drama…why is it on this board that a poster posts something and everyone jumps on the poster? sheesh![/QUOTE]
Then please answer the question of why you think he is annoyed and then I will add the question of why do you think he is being passive aggressive?

Has he ever said he was bothered by you mowing part of grass? Has he ever said he did not like the uneven look (which happens in every neighborhood in the world that does not have one lawn service mowing the whole neighborhood)? Did you see him mowing your part? Could it be a kid or such mowed and did this part?

As I said, there has to be far more to the story if the leap that he is angry and being passive aggressive is going to be made.

With no more story to me it seems like he decided to mow across the front and he simply fails at making the line as tidy as you do.

[McGurk]

Is it possible that the neighbor thinks he is being gracious and neighborly? That he thinks he is repaying a kindness by mowing the road frontage while he’s mowing?

And that maybe he just isn’t as meticulous as you are about the mowing?

I don’t get that doing a bad job is passive-aggressive, unless you have more data to support that.

BTW, I am very meticulous about bushhogging and mowing, having a certain pattern with no “holidays” between the rows, and no one else, not hubby, not very sweet, helpful neighbor, does it to my standard.

I view that as evidence that I’m a little weird about mowing, not that they’re trying to send me a message.

[RockinHorse]

[QUOTE=altermetoday;8694788]
js - I am leaving it alone… I just wrote this post this morning because I noticed how messed up the mowing job was and put 2 and 2 together that he’s annoyed. I have no plans on addressing his crappy mowing skills on my side of the drivewayright now because i’m planning on mowing anyway tonight or tomorrow.

I just think its funny what neighbors do and what annoys them. It never occurred to me that someone would be annoyed by my mowing. I have noticed before and done different things to make it not so noticeable…but I think it is more noticeable any way I do it because I mow more often than he does[/QUOTE]

Re: the bolded part. Interesting comment since it appears that you are the one annoyed by your neighbor’s mowing.

Did you see your neighbor out mowing? Is it possible he had someone else do it which is why it doesn’t look the same as before?

[mg]

There is an open yard between my neighbor and I and the property line splits it almost in half. We both mow to the marker and leave a line. It would be excessive for either of us to mow the other’s half of the yard; it sounds like your area is smaller. It sounds to me like your neighbor is just trying to repay your kindness but is just a less meticulous mower. Either that, or he’s worried that you might claim ownership over that piece of land since you’ve been caring for it, so he’s trying to balance it out??

[shiningwizard255]

You say you are mowing to his driveway, but where is the property line exactly? I’d mow to the property line and leave it at that. If you are going over it to go to the driveway then you technically mowed his lawn first. Or – and I don’t know your relationship with the neighbor – maybe he meant it to be nice, like you’ve been taking care of it, so I got it this time? Some people just suck at cutting grass raises hand so maybe it’s not intentional if it looks bad.

I dunno, my yard only abuts one neighbor’s land and we both just mow to a line that’s about where the property line is truly located anyway. We’re on different schedules so the grass on one side is almost always noticeably longer than the either. I don’t really care, and I don’t think she does either.

[Pennywell_Bay]

I guess I don’t quite understand- he’s mowing in front of your fence on your property? If so, I would bake my neighbor a big old cake if they were doing it

My neighbors blow/mow their grass onto my stone driveway. They have 5 acres of their own on each side (2 neighbors) but they like to put all the grass on my driveway. Shrug. It irks me a bit but they are good neighbors and don’t complain, harass or encroach on my horses so life is good.

[ReSomething]

My DH gets a kick out of mowing a little lower than the next doors because it makes him come out and do it again to get it just right.

Honestly maybe somebody else did it this week, like a service or something?

[allons-y]

I have the opposite sort of problem. My contiguous neighbors are as OCD/ Anal - retentive as I am. I laughingly call it 'Lawn Mower Wars". I.E., whoever mows first, makes the other 3 jump and mow so they don’t look like the ragged ones.
It’s 1012pm here and Neighbor 1 is out on the tractor with finish mower…I know what I’m doing tomorrow (day off thank Goodness)!!! We all love that parklike look. Total is about 20 Acres so we all get farmer tans.
I love my neighbors, If I don’t mow soon enough, Neighbor 1 mows my front 2 acres and/or common side yard so it looks nice! We’re training newest neighbor and I’ve mowed his several times this year.
No one gets bent out of shape, there are no fences up on areas we mow for each other. It really looks beautiful when done and we all appreciate that.
N1 also does my road frontage with his to make it all match. Getting ‘off schedule’ with each other? Horrors!
If all work together its a beautiful thing.