New horse

[2DogsFarm]

Well thanks for your tirade, but you honestly have no idea what trials some of the posters here have gone through in their personal lives.
Past is Past, Forward is the only way to go.
Spreading out your Banquet of Pain doesn’t change the fact that you appear to be making a rash, uninformed & potentially dangerous choice for your first horse.

You got some good level-headed info about the “wisdom” of a Novice horseowner starting with a recently-gelded, unbroken (to riding) 13yo stud, chose to ignore it & resorted to profanity before declaring your were THROUGH with COTH.
Yet, here you are, still embroidering your story with added info I imagine is supposed to make things more realistically possible.
Save your e-breath.
There are far more experienced horseowners on here who have offered sound advice only to have it tossed aside.
If you were looking for 100% Positive Reinforcement you came to the wrong place.
You aren’t the 1st, won’t be the Last.
Good Luck, I believe you will need that more than those Wedding Beads or “colic paste” < WTH is that anyhow?.

ETA:
I see the Moderators have edited out your profanity.
You may wish to review the Rules of the BB as repeated offense can get you Banned.

[ladyj79]

I thought maybe it was real, and engaged previously with helpful advice but I’m going back to I think its a fake. Adults don’t keep coming back like this, do they?

I also think it might be two kids because one whole post will be really, really poorly written/spelled/lots of errors, and the next will be largely correct. I’ve never seen that in teaching over 100 composition classes. People aren’t boarderline illiterate in one instance and competent the next.

[Nootka]

Food for thought:

Use paragraphs.

I can’t read that jumble of crap

[Nootka]

[QUOTE=Sarahfay94;8936552]
Find someone else to bully. Yes i am married with 2 kids. Ive been married for 3.5 years and my kids are 5 and 1. And if you must know ny dogs are 10 4 2 and 1. My cats are 8 and 1, my ferret is 7 and my fish are about 2 years old. Dont need to really explain my life to everyone but since everyone wants to gang up and bully people. And if you must know, i dont know what your guys problem is with me and why you feel the need to be rude and nasty towards a complete stranger but i have a great family and support system. We are aware of costs that go into caring for a horse and are prepared. We own our home so no mortgage. No boarding fees, no purchase fees for the horse. I just have to go get him. And i offered to help pay for his gelding, vet check, health certificate and coggins. But he said no. And he had him for sale and had several people wanting to purchase him but decided to give him to me because i have the opportunity to have a horse. You can call bs on whatever you want. But don’t hate on other peoples lives when your insecure about yourself. Im tiered of people feeling they can talk down to me, belittle me, attack me and bully me. If you dont have anything positive to say then bye. But i have to overcome dealing with bullies such as yourself. And im not going to walk away because you want to try and be hurtful.[/QUOTE]

@Sarahfay94;8936583

Tgank you for being sp polite. Yes i am very excited about finally having my own horse. Ali will be for myself and my husband to ride where we have our friends horse daisy for the kids to ride. My husband sees how determined i am to go get this horse and knows once i am determined i get things done. Hence why we have 4 rescue dogs. ive been budgeting and pricing everything out and bought his first halter the other day. And that just made it all feel like im just one step closer to getting him. He is my dream horse. Beautiful and calm spirited. We started clearing out the wooded area where we are going to have him stay and got about 1/4 of it cleared in a few hours. We still have a lot of work to do. But every weekend we go up there and will do more work on it. And before i know it, his spot will be cleared, his fence and shelter will be installed and well be ready to go pick him up! I anticipate to have it all done this winter so when spring does come we can get up there as soon as possible. For first aid kits i know ill need gauze wraps, ductape, scissors, iodine, colic paste, dewormer, fly mask, and im still adding to the list. Our plan is to call the vet as we are driving up so the day we arrive we can get everything done or have it done a week in advanced. Fls law right now i know is the hc needs to be 30 days or less old, that they need to have their temp documented, any sort of registration papers and coggins has to be done within 6 months. I called ahead to the ag cent last week and they said to call about a week ahead before we leave to make sure nothing gas changed. This is honestly a dream come true. And my husband pretty much just told me to ignore the nay sayers as they have nothing better to do than be rude to people. But i know i will be taking A LOT of pictures! ive just been so excited about it i just cannot wait. thank you again for not being rude like a lot of other people here. I really appreciate it.

@Sarahfay94;8936665

Food for thought. The next time you get behind your keyboard think about what you say before you say it as likely you dont know the person you are about to attack and bully. You dont know that persons mental state or life. And i personally can tell you i have been battling with severe depression since i was a child. I was always bullied growing up and made fun of because id rather be around animals than people. And this is a perfect example why. People get off on hurting other people and putting them down. Where most animals want nothing more than to show you how much they love you. All of my animals have been strays or animals that i have personally gone and rescued before being brought to the shelter and put down. All of them have had behaviour issues and i have taken my time and effort to making them the animals they are today. I even spent 6 months going and laying on the ground every night just to get a severely ferel cat to trust me. That cat will not go to anyone else but me and i walk out that door and call his name he comes running to get petted. I have always had a love for animals and i have always had a gift of getting the most difficult animals to behave. I wont say i never havent gotten biten, scratched, kicked, or drug. Because i have. But my will power and love for animals always over powers anytime i get injured and people tell me to give up. In no way am i saying training cats and dogs is the same as horses because its not but i know that i have what it takes to make this horse my horse and my best friend. I do not have patience for ignorant people but i have all rhe patience in the world for any animal. I know i will get tossed, i expect it. I expexr to have some really bad days where i will feel like giving up but i know that in the end it will all be worth it. I have overcome a lot of obstacles in my life, between an abusive mother and an abusive step father, to never knowing my real father, sexual abuse, having a kid at 17 and still graduated highschool by myself, losing a baby to an ectopic pregnancy and almost dieing and losing many of my animals over the years. I could have given up on life many many years ago when i wanted to but my love for animals is what has given ne purpose in life. And ny kids are what make me stronger every day. I make it a point to make sure my kids will have a better life than i did and to be a batter parent than my mother was, because she even has said i am a better mom than she ever was and now i no longer speak to her and the only person in my family i do speak to is my great uncle. Every single day we talk about life, the horses etc. And he knows how passionate i am about animals and how i prefer to take in animals that need wprk than an animal that is ready. Which is why he wants me to have ali. Not just because hes a expensive pretty horse but because he knows i will do everything in my power to make sure that ali will become the best horse that his potential can reach because of my dedication and determination. So for everyone who wants to get behind your keyboard and say mean and nasty hurtful things how about you get to know someone and their life before judging them and trying to put them down. Thank you all have a great day.

@Sarahfay94;8936804

I have looked into uship previously. It was $1000 a horse to have them shipped. Id much rather go there, see my uncle, meet thr horses and decide if either one is a good fit or if he has another one hes willing to let go. But i honestly dont think we are going to get diah due to her age, but im still dead set on ali.

again… just cause

[Sarahfay94]

Nope. I’m still the same person. Didn’t know that i needed to spell check and grammar check everything i write here. And also im using a phone and sometimes hit the wrong letter. I dont have cable or internet and use my phone for everything i need to search and with that i dont always have the time or chance to get on here. As for colic paste? They sell it at tractor supply. It comes in a tube. Sort of like the dewormer tubes. And as for me saying a sob story far from it. Everyone wanted to call me a troll and say i was fake blah blah blah well you got the gist of my life and can see that i am not a fake person or a child. But honestly as for making fun of people and being rude, again as i said previously before you get behind your keyboard and start to bash people consider that other people actually have feelings? I can say that with having severe depression, being attacked the way i was has a very negative effect on me. Again you may not care, but i do not need the added stress. I simply came to this forum for helpful advice and instead i got attacked and made fun of? I dont see how its fair for everyone to gang up on the new person like they are in high school. As far as ali goes. I very much so will be getting him in the spring. We are working on getting everything ready for him. Hes not a wild horse. He has been handled from birth. He has s very sweet and loving demeanour and has no problems being handled or saddled. Amd now its a matter of breaking him into ride. As for the saftey of the kids, they will not be riding him. They have the other horse. Ali is for myself and my husband. Daisy our friends aqh mare is a trail horse and the kids ride her all the time. So we werent focused on getting another broken kid friendly horse right away. This is a great opportunity for us and i will not miss out on it. Its not every day your offered a horse like this for the cosr of mearly going and getting him. And honestly even if he wasnt worth that id still go get him. You all can be negative etc. But i am going into this with an open mind and im optimistic. Again i know he’s going to need a lot of work, but myself and my husband are more than willing to put forth the effort into this horse. If my uncle truly felt i couldn’t handle him he wouldn’t of offered him to us. And he had several people wanting to purchase him, but once i told him i had the opportunity to finally have my own horse, he told everyone he was no longer for sale and that he was going to florida. And since then we have been busy getting ready for him. I know my uncle and he is the last person who would screw me over. He knows ive had a very very rough life and he wants nothing but the best for me. And he has worked very hard to be where he is today and now that he is older, and putting his breeding program on hold for a few years, he had to make the decision of what horses he would let go. And diah and ali where the 2. He offered me both. However i told him i was mainly interested in ali. He told me that if i was to keep him as a stallion hed need a lot of special care and handling. If i didnt want him as a stallion then hed have him gelded and start him on riding. Hes not dumping him on me. Ali is a great horse and we will put him to his up most potential. I believe in myself, my husband, out friends and their neighbor who is willing to help us if we need it and he is and has been a horse trainer. Ali will one day be the best he can be. And as soon as i saw him i knew he was meant to be my horse. I got that same feeling with every one of my animals. And i refuse to give up. So again if you do not have anything nice to say from here on out simply scroll on and do not comment. I shouldn’t have to leave because x amount of people feel the need to try and bully someone. Im standing up for myself finallt. And i will not sit here and be talked down to. I have done nothing to any of you. I do not know any of you. You do not know me. So no one has the right to be mean and nasty for no reason.

[Reynard]

[QUOTE=Sarahfay94;8936665]
Food for thought. The next time you get behind your keyboard think about what you say before you say it as likely you dont know the person you are about to attack and bully. You dont know that persons mental state or life. And i personally can tell you i have been battling with severe depression since i was a child. I was always bullied growing up and made fun of because id rather be around animals than people. And this is a perfect example why. People get off on hurting other people and putting them down. Where most animals want nothing more than to show you how much they love you. All of my animals have been strays or animals that i have personally gone and rescued before being brought to the shelter and put down. All of them have had behaviour issues and i have taken my time and effort to making them the animals they are today. I even spent 6 months going and laying on the ground every night just to get a severely ferel cat to trust me. That cat will not go to anyone else but me and i walk out that door and call his name he comes running to get petted. I have always had a love for animals and i have always had a gift of getting the most difficult animals to behave. I wont say i never havent gotten biten, scratched, kicked, or drug. Because i have. But my will power and love for animals always over powers anytime i get injured and people tell me to give up. In no way am i saying training cats and dogs is the same as horses because its not but i know that i have what it takes to make this horse my horse and my best friend. I do not have patience for ignorant people but i have all rhe patience in the world for any animal. I know i will get tossed, i expect it. I expexr to have some really bad days where i will feel like giving up but i know that in the end it will all be worth it. I have overcome a lot of obstacles in my life, between an abusive mother and an abusive step father, to never knowing my real father, sexual abuse, having a kid at 17 and still graduated highschool by myself, losing a baby to an ectopic pregnancy and almost dieing and losing many of my animals over the years. I could have given up on life many many years ago when i wanted to but my love for animals is what has given ne purpose in life. And ny kids are what make me stronger every day. I make it a point to make sure my kids will have a better life than i did and to be a batter parent than my mother was, because she even has said i am a better mom than she ever was and now i no longer speak to her and the only person in my family i do speak to is my great uncle. Every single day we talk about life, the horses etc. And he knows how passionate i am about animals and how i prefer to take in animals that need wprk than an animal that is ready. Which is why he wants me to have ali. Not just because hes a expensive pretty horse but because he knows i will do everything in my power to make sure that ali will become the best horse that his potential can reach because of my dedication and determination. So for everyone who wants to get behind your keyboard and say mean and nasty hurtful things how about you get to know someone and their life before judging them and trying to put them down. Thank you all have a great day.[/QUOTE]

I had a sandwich for lunch.

[Reynard]

Perhaps Daisy’s owner could assist you with the information you need.

[ChasPonyCat]

A $20,000 horse that’s not broke to ride? At what age?

[Nootka]

[QUOTE=Sarahfay94;8938588]
Nope. I’m still the same person. Didn’t know that i needed to spell check and grammar check everything i write here. And also im using a phone and sometimes hit the wrong letter. I dont have cable or internet and use my phone for everything i need to search and with that i dont always have the time or chance to get on here. As for colic paste? They sell it at tractor supply. It comes in a tube. Sort of like the dewormer tubes. And as for me saying a sob story far from it. Everyone wanted to call me a troll and say i was fake blah blah blah well you got the gist of my life and can see that i am not a fake person or a child. But honestly as for making fun of people and being rude, again as i said previously before you get behind your keyboard and start to bash people consider that other people actually have feelings? I can say that with having severe depression, being attacked the way i was has a very negative effect on me. Again you may not care, but i do not need the added stress. I simply came to this forum for helpful advice and instead i got attacked and made fun of? I dont see how its fair for everyone to gang up on the new person like they are in high school. As far as ali goes. I very much so will be getting him in the spring. We are working on getting everything ready for him. Hes not a wild horse. He has been handled from birth. He has s very sweet and loving demeanour and has no problems being handled or saddled. Amd now its a matter of breaking him into ride. As for the saftey of the kids, they will not be riding him. They have the other horse. Ali is for myself and my husband. Daisy our friends aqh mare is a trail horse and the kids ride her all the time. So we werent focused on getting another broken kid friendly horse right away. This is a great opportunity for us and i will not miss out on it. Its not every day your offered a $20k horse for the cosr of mearly going and getting him. And honestly even if he wasnt worth that id still go get him. You all can be negative etc. But i am going into this with an open mind and im optimistic. Again i know he’s going to need a lot of work, but myself and my husband are more than willing to put forth the effort into this horse. If my uncle truly felt i couldn’t handle him he wouldn’t of offered him to us. And he had several people wanting to purchase him, but once i told him i had the opportunity to finally have my own horse, he told everyone he was no longer for sale and that he was going to florida. And since then we have been busy getting ready for him. I know my uncle and he is the last person who would screw me over. He knows ive had a very very rough life and he wants nothing but the best for me. And he has worked very hard to be where he is today and now that he is older, and putting his breeding program on hold for a few years, he had to make the decision of what horses he would let go. And diah and ali where the 2. He offered me both. However i told him i was mainly interested in ali. He told me that if i was to keep him as a stallion hed need a lot of special care and handling. If i didnt want him as a stallion then hed have him gelded and start him on riding. Hes not dumping him on me. Ali is a great horse and we will put him to his up most potential. I believe in myself, my husband, out friends and their neighbor who is willing to help us if we need it and he is and has been a horse trainer. Ali will one day be the best he can be. And as soon as i saw him i knew he was meant to be my horse. I got that same feeling with every one of my animals. And i refuse to give up. So again if you do not have anything nice to say from here on out simply scroll on and do not comment. I shouldn’t have to leave because x amount of people feel the need to try and bully someone. Im standing up for myself finallt. And i will not sit here and be talked down to. I have done nothing to any of you. I do not know any of you. You do not know me. So no one has the right to be mean and nasty for no reason.[/QUOTE]

rolling, rolling, rolling… keep those replies … rolling

Help him… and help yourself. Take lessons

[Foxglove6]

[QUOTE=Sarahfay94;8938588]
Nope. I’m still the same person. Didn’t know that i needed to spell check and grammar check everything i write here. And also im using a phone and sometimes hit the wrong letter. I dont have cable or internet and use my phone for everything i need to search and with that i dont always have the time or chance to get on here. As for colic paste? They sell it at tractor supply. It comes in a tube. Sort of like the dewormer tubes. And as for me saying a sob story far from it. Everyone wanted to call me a troll and say i was fake blah blah blah well you got the gist of my life and can see that i am not a fake person or a child. But honestly as for making fun of people and being rude, again as i said previously before you get behind your keyboard and start to bash people consider that other people actually have feelings? I can say that with having severe depression, being attacked the way i was has a very negative effect on me. Again you may not care, but i do not need the added stress. I simply came to this forum for helpful advice and instead i got attacked and made fun of? I dont see how its fair for everyone to gang up on the new person like they are in high school. As far as ali goes. I very much so will be getting him in the spring. We are working on getting everything ready for him. Hes not a wild horse. He has been handled from birth. He has s very sweet and loving demeanour and has no problems being handled or saddled. Amd now its a matter of breaking him into ride. As for the saftey of the kids, they will not be riding him. They have the other horse. Ali is for myself and my husband. Daisy our friends aqh mare is a trail horse and the kids ride her all the time. So we werent focused on getting another broken kid friendly horse right away. This is a great opportunity for us and i will not miss out on it. Its not every day your offered a $20k horse for the cosr of mearly going and getting him. And honestly even if he wasnt worth that id still go get him. You all can be negative etc. But i am going into this with an open mind and im optimistic. Again i know he’s going to need a lot of work, but myself and my husband are more than willing to put forth the effort into this horse. If my uncle truly felt i couldn’t handle him he wouldn’t of offered him to us. And he had several people wanting to purchase him, but once i told him i had the opportunity to finally have my own horse, he told everyone he was no longer for sale and that he was going to florida. And since then we have been busy getting ready for him. I know my uncle and he is the last person who would screw me over. He knows ive had a very very rough life and he wants nothing but the best for me. And he has worked very hard to be where he is today and now that he is older, and putting his breeding program on hold for a few years, he had to make the decision of what horses he would let go. And diah and ali where the 2. He offered me both. However i told him i was mainly interested in ali. He told me that if i was to keep him as a stallion hed need a lot of special care and handling. If i didnt want him as a stallion then hed have him gelded and start him on riding. Hes not dumping him on me. Ali is a great horse and we will put him to his up most potential. I believe in myself, my husband, out friends and their neighbor who is willing to help us if we need it and he is and has been a horse trainer. Ali will one day be the best he can be. And as soon as i saw him i knew he was meant to be my horse. I got that same feeling with every one of my animals. And i refuse to give up. So again if you do not have anything nice to say from here on out simply scroll on and do not comment. I shouldn’t have to leave because x amount of people feel the need to try and bully someone. Im standing up for myself finallt. And i will not sit here and be talked down to. I have done nothing to any of you. I do not know any of you. You do not know me. So no one has the right to be mean and nasty for no reason.[/QUOTE]

You asked for advice. The overwhelming response that you got was that you should not get this horse. That’s it. Everything else is just noise.

Who is training this horse to be ridden? What professional trainer do you have set up to put 90 days on him?

You say you ride your friend’s horses every weekend. But that is not the same as being a professional trainer or being able to teach a horse to being saddle-broke.

We are not being mean when we say don’t do this. We are being very nice because we are trying to save your life. This is the kind of thing that gets people killed. I’m not exaggerating. Dogs and cats can scratch and bite you. Horses can crush your skull and organs and break your bones. We are not bullying or being nasty. We are being honest.

[Pennywell_Bay]

[QUOTE=ChasPonyCat;8938614]
A $20,000 horse that’s not broke to ride? At what age?[/QUOTE]

In all fairness- I sold a 2 year old for 30K. But he won on the line at Devon and had a history of full siblings that went on to prolific riding careers.

[ChasPonyCat]

[QUOTE=Pennywell Bay;8938634]
In all fairness- I sold a 2 year old for 30K. But he won on the line at Devon and had a history of full siblings that went on to prolific riding careers.[/QUOTE]

I was waiting for an answer like this

Okay, yes, it CAN and DOES happen, but in specific circumstances like yours. I meant to express my doubts about the worth in this particular situation.

[Laurierace]

Now it all makes sense. You think you are getting a great deal by getting a 20k horse for free. Unfortunately $200 is probably closer to reality I am sorry to say. I do understand wanting a horse of your own so badly that you take any horse that someone will give you because I have done it myself. Sometimes you have to learn lessons the hard way for them to stick.

[Pennywell_Bay]

[QUOTE=ChasPonyCat;8938641]
I was waiting for an answer like this

Okay, yes, it CAN and DOES happen, but in specific circumstances like yours. I meant to express my doubts about the worth in this particular situation.[/QUOTE]

hee hee. I doubt this is the current situation, just by the posts (no offense) but just wanted to jump in

[Sarahfay94]

There is a difference in offering advice and bullying people. And quite honestly a lot of people here started up before i even had a chance to get back on here. Clearly some people have nothing better to do than sit here and talk crap. I came here looking for helpful advice. Im trying to get as much knowledge as possible. I have been talking to a lot of different people just trying to soak in as much as possible. And a lot of the “good advice” has been far from advice. Atleast 3 pages of this stuff is people sitting here trying to make fun of me and talk crap. There has been very few comments that have even been remotely helpful.

[The_Blood_Bay_Mare]

[QUOTE=ChasPonyCat;8938614]
A $20,000 horse that’s not broke to ride? At what age?[/QUOTE]

13, according to prior posts :rolleyes:

[Sarahfay94]

[QUOTE=Laurierace;8938642]
Now it all makes sense. You think you are getting a great deal by getting a 20k horse for free. Unfortunately $200 is probably closer to reality I am sorry to say. I do understand wanting a horse of your own so badly that you take any horse that someone will give you because I have done it myself. Sometimes you have to learn lessons the hard way for them to stick.[/QUOTE]

Would you like to see his papers? Would you like to see his relatives? He is every bit of it. And my uncle paid a lot just to purchase this horse. Hes simply trying to help me get a good start. Because he knows not only do i want a companion and trail horse but id eventually like a horse i can show.

[Reynard]

[QUOTE=The Blood Bay Mare;8938687]
13, according to prior posts :rolleyes:[/QUOTE]

Some horses mature later than others…

[Sarahfay94]

[QUOTE=The Blood Bay Mare;8938687]
13, according to prior posts :rolleyes:[/QUOTE]

Yes he is 13. And i know what hes worth and my uncle knows what hes worth and what he has into him. And he knows what he would of gotten for him and what he was offered.

[Reynard]

[QUOTE=Sarahfay94;8938694]
Would you like to see his papers? Would you like to see his relatives? He is every bit of it. And my uncle paid a lot just to purchase this horse. Hes simply trying to help me get a good start. Because he knows not only do i want a companion and trail horse but id eventually like a horse i can show.[/QUOTE]

What experience do you have of handling stallions or newly gelded older horses?