Posting here because I’m not quite sure of a better place to post this. I’m strongly considering giving up riding itself. I’ve been riding for almost 18 years, have had horses for 15, and am almost 24y/o. Physically, I’m perfectly fine to keep riding horses (even if I am a tad beat up for my age). I’ve been incredibly lucky thus far when it comes to riding - only a total of two falls, neither with anything more than bruises. It’s important to note that number of falls is simply due to having mostly well-mannered and well-trained horses who are kept as comfortable as possible at all times.
I lost my first horse in 2020 when she was 28 years old to colic. I hadn’t ridden her in 3 years at that point, and instead had been riding my mom’s paint and my trainer’s school horses. Last year I bought an 8y/o Welsh x Kiger gelding who is absolutely amazing. Very well trained, if unconfident, and the friendliest horse I’ve ever known. He’s very fun and easy to ride, and is my perfect type of horse (not fast, but not arena-sour either). He does have mild arthritis in his hocks, which is early for his age and I knew that when buying him.
And yet I’m finding myself scared to ride. I have a son who’s 1 1/2 old now and I keep finding myself worrying that an accident might happen and leave him without a mother. It doesn’t help that riding has always terrified me, regardless of how much I love horses. Cantering is literally my biggest fear, though mainly because I’ve had a lot of bad experiences with it. My first mare was really the only horse I ever felt fully safe on, but I’ve tried not having horses in my life altogether and it just completely tanks my mental state. On top of that, I already have a host of hip and back problems - I’m more beat up than my husband who played hockey.
In short, I’m strongly considering giving up riding altogether. I just don’t know if it’s worth the stress it causes me. I don’t want to rehome my gelding, as I still love doing liberty work with him, and realistically, he needs to move for his arthritis but also shouldn’t be heavily worked anyways. I very clearly still need horses in my life for the therapeutic aspect of it. Driving isn’t an option where I live, we don’t really have any trainers nearby and I definitely don’t want to try it on my own.
My question is, has anyone else given up riding (even if temporarily and not due to injury), and kept their horses? And if so, how did you keep them in shape?
As a compromise I’m considering, just sticking to walk/trot and only in “safe” circumstances - good weather, calm/happy horse, proper footing, etc. Obviously that doesn’t negate all risks in the saddle, but it does remove a lot of them.