Full disclosure. I am 59 years old and am an eventer that bought a fabulous jumper to have fun with at non-rated shows. The first time I scratched my head was when a 20 something rider whom I knew was at a low level informal schooling show (think ugly Christmas sweater) with her group. I am trainerless as my fav trainer moved a couple of states away. I was happy to see her at this show and pulled up a chair to catch up with her. Everyone in the group sat stiff and didn’t make eye contact even though they didn’t know me from Adam as this was my first show.
Fast forward to recently to a large schooling hunter/jumper show I went to with my barn. My barn owner teaches little kids in pig tails and fat ponies over cross rails and she is the barn owner , not my trainer but I hang with her because I like her and the little kids. I was also there with another rider from my barn in her early 20’s that has done jumpers for years.We are walking thru the barns and we have to zig zag as we can’t walk thru certain groups that she knows and then it comes out. None of these groups are friendly to each other and the culture is you stay with your group and you don’t speak to anyone in other groups. I was in the warmup arena getting ready for my 3’3" class when I trainer came in and put the jumps down (way down) for her kids. No worries my guy doesn’t need much. So as she was walking out, I very (VERY) nicely asked her if she could put one of the jumps up about 4 holes and thanked her profusely. She glared at me put them up and walked out with out a word. I’m in there by myself so obviously no trainer around.
When I asked my barn owner later, she said it isn’t like that everywhere but is endemic to here. I remember when I first started eventing, I commented to myself out loud I had forgotten something and the person next to me next to me offered me hers and I did not know her at all. That’s eventers. We are welcoming to everyone and our trainers all hang together and students bounce around to different trainers. We bring extra beer in case the person next to us had a bad round.
So would this be different if this was a straight jumper show? Is it the hunters? Or is this how it is?