I have been shopping for a long time now and am like many others getting frustrated with the market. I can live with that for the most part as there are still some great horses for those on a budget if you bide your time and search carefully.
What is starting to happen is I am beginning to hesitate even when I do find one that checks most of my boxes. The reason why is that I have had couple projects during my shopping journey and while most turned out well and I made a few bucks on most of them but most recently I had one that didn’t turn out to be anything like she was supposed to be. I know I know not every sale project is going to be a slam dunk but at the same time all of my sale projects have been those I picked up hoping they would become my long term partner so it felt like a personal failure on picking the wrong horse yet again.
Now here I am worried that I will have another failure and as I am now starting to play in the “big money” (for me) it could be a major set back if I pick the wrong one. My husband used a slightly off color but potentially accurate comparison that has me now wondering if I am going about it in the wrong way. He said he knew a guy that confided that he had so many bed buddies over the years that he didn’t know that he would ever find the right one and that he worried he had ruined his chance for a true good relationship. Because he didn’t know what a good relationship was and even though he knew the less flashy/attractive women were often the ones that would be committed and not moving from flavor of the week to flavor of the week to be arm candy he couldn’t find an attraction to the plainer Janes.
Am I crazy to think that by having the mindset that each horse I buy might just be a temporary journey that it might in turn be impacting the effort I am willing to put into them and the willingness to work with some flaws/quirks? When does working to find the right fit long term turn into talking yourself into nothing being the right fit? Prior to the search for my next partner I had only one riding horse for many many years and she was pretty much my sole ride in all that time. I am looking for the right one to come up behind her as she ages that can take me places that she never has been able to.
I tried a green but relatively nice mare today but I find myself already wondering if investing most of my budget into her would be a mistake as I don’t know that I could recoup her purchase price if she doesn’t work out for me long term.