Pregnant riders support group? :)

[Nickelodian]

Hey everyone. ooookkk checking in on what I have missed in the last 5 days…

Madison - I felt like if I made the decision to sell my horse I would regret it every day for the rest of my life. So I didn’t. I leased him out knowing that he would come safely back to me if I wanted, or I could sell later knowing I had the option. Selling would have been heartbreaking to me and I wasn’t ready to deal with the emotional strain of walking away from the life that I loved for a baby I didn’t even know.

akhunterrider - I am so sorry for your loss. drmn and I have similar stories in our previous losses and I will tell you my heart breaks for what you’re going through. Don’t let anyone convince you the grieving isn’t real, because it most certainly is. You may want to consider finding a support group for miscarriage, or feel free to reach out to me to chat virtually if you don’t have a support group that has been through this. I know talking to my friends that had been through helped immensely.

For those of you worried about what to buy - look to your mommy friends. I have one in particular that I ping on a weekly basis about this or that or what do I need. It’s funny because the closer I got to the baby coming the less I seemed to care about the perfect stroller and car seat. I think that in the earlier stages it gives you something to focus on, which is a great thing.

drmn - Today is your due date, keep us updated!!!

JLC - My favorite book for fact searching was YOU having a baby. For blogs that I felt like kept it real, pregnant chicken is IMHO hands down the best. I found that if I searched a subject on pinterest the blogs that were “pinned” the most had the best information on the topics I was looking for. Better than google because other people had found the information useful which brought it up onto searches sooner.

Also, I found youtube to be a GREAT wealth of knowledge about almost everything. The more views the better I liked the video (following trends again).

Ok so on to me…

Yes I come speaking to you all with the grand wealth of knowledge from the other side. Baby was born on 9/21 weighing in at 5lbs 9 oz and 18 inches long. My birth story (ew that sounds so cheesy) was not one that was easy or particularly good. To say that I am happy to be alive is not a statement made in sarcasm or taken lightly. I tried to die about 3 times over the course of 2 days for different reasons. Baby is currently enjoying an all expense paid trip to the NICU while I focus on gaining strength. If anyone is interested on everything that can go wrong in a labor and after birth, feel free to message me, I’ve got almost all the bases covered. Except my actual delivery was super easy. Let me just say this. Rely on your core and your riding muscles those suckers will push that baby out in no time at all. I did not have a c-section only because they thought I wouldn’t survive the surgery. Not kidding at all.

So, I’m here, he’s here, and we are getting better every day.

Happy to chat with whoever wants to listen, but I AM THE .000005%. or some such nonsensical number for how badly things went when they shouldn’t have.

[drmgncolor]

[QUOTE=Nickelodian;8332161]
Yes I come speaking to you all with the grand wealth of knowledge from the other side. [/QUOTE]

I had a feeling you foaled, but OH MY GOODNESS!
I’m sending you a PM, in addition to a plethora of virtual hugs.
I feel like I know you… and I’m crying for you. Happy tears… relieved tears.

If no baby this weekend, it’s highly likely I will be induced Monday or Wednesday. I’m waiting for my Dr to confirm… he had to run to deliver a baby during my appt.

[Show_Gypsy]

Akhunterrider, you are not alone. I miscarried 3 weeks ago today, at 16 weeks. It is hard to say it out loud (or write it). I know there’s not much else to say, other than I feel for you.

[drmgncolor]

Big Hugs to you, Show Gypsy. Big Hugs.

[She_s_Pure_Gold]

@akhunterrider;8331420

I have some sad news. I’m no longer a part of the expectant riders group. Just wasn’t meant to be. Just relaxing with my dog trying to overcome the physical and empirical pain. Hopefully someday I’ll be back.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Show Gypsy;8332286]Akhunterrider, you are not alone. I miscarried 3 weeks ago today, at 16 weeks. It is hard to say it out loud (or write it). I know there’s not much else to say, other than I feel for you.

I am so sorry for you both My heart goes out to you. Take care of yourselves and I hope you are both surrounded with support.

[QUOTE=Nickelodian;8332161]
Ok so on to me…

Yes I come speaking to you all with the grand wealth of knowledge from the other side. Baby was born on 9/21 weighing in at 5lbs 9 oz and 18 inches long. My birth story (ew that sounds so cheesy) was not one that was easy or particularly good. To say that I am happy to be alive is not a statement made in sarcasm or taken lightly. I tried to die about 3 times over the course of 2 days for different reasons. Baby is currently enjoying an all expense paid trip to the NICU while I focus on gaining strength. If anyone is interested on everything that can go wrong in a labor and after birth, feel free to message me, I’ve got almost all the bases covered. Except my actual delivery was super easy. Let me just say this. Rely on your core and your riding muscles those suckers will push that baby out in no time at all. I did not have a c-section only because they thought I wouldn’t survive the surgery. Not kidding at all.

So, I’m here, he’s here, and we are getting better every day.

Happy to chat with whoever wants to listen, but I AM THE .000005%. or some such nonsensical number for how badly things went when they shouldn’t have.[/QUOTE]

Nick, so glad you made it through. Sending jingles to you and your baby, hope you’re both well (and home!) soon!! I can’t imagine how scary of an experience that must have been.

[akhunterrider]

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I got my hair done today and got to hug my horse. My little dog is still glued to my side. This is unfortunately my second miscarriage. The first was likely due to my uterine septum, which has now been resected twice. I did fall off my horse at 11 weeks, but ultrasound showed baby stopped growing at 9 weeks. Since the gestational sac continued to grow, the doctor recommended a D and C due to the potential for blood loss and hemorrhage. I partially miscarried at home the night before the procedure and was in a huge amount of pain. I felt a lot better yesterday after the procedure was all over. The doctor thinks there may still be an issue with my uterus. I’ll have a saline sonogram in a couple weeks and we’ll go from there. I may be heading back to the reproductive specialist. It’s pretty disheartening, but hopefully we can get some answers.

Thinking of you, Nick.

[akhunterrider]

@Show Gypsy;8332286

Akhunterrider, you are not alone. I miscarried 3 weeks ago today, at 16 weeks. It is hard to say it out loud (or write it). I know there’s not much else to say, other than I feel for you.

I’m so very sorry for your loss

[akhunterrider]

@Nickelodian;8332161

akhunterrider - I am so sorry for your loss. drmn and I have similar stories in our previous losses and I will tell you my heart breaks for what you’re going through. Don’t let anyone convince you the grieving isn’t real, because it most certainly is. You may want to consider finding a support group for miscarriage, or feel free to reach out to me to chat virtually if you don’t have a support group that has been through this. I know talking to my friends that had been through helped immensely.

Thank you so much for your kind words

[KateR]

Akhunterrider and Show Gypsy, I’m so sorry for your losses, take care of yourselves and your partners.

Congratulations, Nickelodian, glad you both came through and hoping you both have a quick recovery.

[pinkpony321]

So sorry AKhunterrider and show gypsy. I hope the two of you find peace as soon as possible.

Puts the pity party I am currently throwing myself for feeling lonely for my non-pregnant or child having-friends in perspective. I will try to be better about counting my blessings.

[forward_ride]

@Show Gypsy;8332286

Akhunterrider, you are not alone. I miscarried 3 weeks ago today, at 16 weeks. It is hard to say it out loud (or write it). I know there’s not much else to say, other than I feel for you.

Show Gypsy and akhunterrider, I am so sorry for both of your losses. Know that you are not alone. I went through the same thing in February when I lost one at 8 weeks (and actually miscarried a few weeks later). Not only was it physically painful (took about 2 weeks to finish the mmc), it was mentally painful and exhausting as well. I do believe that things happen for a reason and it just wasn’t our time then, but even that was no solace at the time. Sending you both happy and healing thoughts.

[Heineken]

Akhunterrider, I’m so sorry. Gypsy, same to you. There aren’t the right words but hopefully coming here is still a safe place to let it out when you are ready.

Nick, holy shit. Feel free to PM me if you’d like, but glad you are both still with us.

[akhunterrider]

[QUOTE=forward ride;8334570]
Show Gypsy and akhunterrider, I am so sorry for both of your losses. Know that you are not alone. I went through the same thing in February when I lost one at 8 weeks (and actually miscarried a few weeks later). Not only was it physically painful (took about 2 weeks to finish the mmc), it was mentally painful and exhausting as well. I do believe that things happen for a reason and it just wasn’t our time then, but even that was no solace at the time. Sending you both happy and healing thoughts.[/QUOTE]

If by Mmc you mean medical miscarriage, that’s what I went through the first time around and it was the worst experience of my life. I would never wish that on anyone.

I wouldn’t necessarily prefer the D and C, but after being in so much pain partially miscarrying naturally at home the night before the D and C, I felt so much better after the D and C.

Thanks everyone for your kind words. Just hoping my doctors can start communicating and figure something out.

[ilmjumper]

Well, the full moon came and went without a hitch I told DH last night he’s not allowed to say “today is the day” anymore lol She seem to be enjoying making a liar out of him!

Nick, I’m glad everything turned out good for you and your nugget, how scary!

[pinkpony321]

[QUOTE=ilmjumper;8334930]
Well, the full moon came and went without a hitch I told DH last night he’s not allowed to say “today is the day” anymore lol She seem to be enjoying making a liar out of him!

Nick, I’m glad everything turned out good for you and your nugget, how scary![/QUOTE]

Fingers crossed that today is the day! We have one other person waiting to go any time now, correct? Drmgncolor, have you had your little one yet?

[caballogurl]

akhunterrider - I have been through a hysterscopy, septum repair, hysterosalpingogram, and sonohysterosalpingogram (saline sonogram). Then following those procedures IVF, albeit not successful the first time. Please don’t give up! My heart breaks for you and let me know if you ever need a shoulder to cry on or any information on diagnostic procedures (I’ve had them all).

I was at a party this weekend and since I am pregnant with twins, I am fairly open about having done IVF since most people assume it anyways. After telling a woman I had just met it took me two tries with IVF to get pregnant, she said to me “You are so lucky.” I wanted to look at her and punch her in the face. “Lucky”…really?? I spent three years trying to have a kid and then nine months of diagnostics, treatments, shots, and OHSS. I have permanent sciatic nerve damage from the injections. During all of this I couldn’t ride and then my first cycle my transfer didn’t take. Then I asked her quizzically, “Why did she think I was so lucky?” She then informed me that she had done four IVF cycles and none were successful. Aww how my heart broke for her…:(. Sometimes it is important to remember how lucky we are, even if for some of us it takes a couple tries.

[akhunterrider]

Caballogurl I’m going top send you a PM

[JLC]

[QUOTE=Nickelodian;8332161]

Ok so on to me…

Yes I come speaking to you all with the grand wealth of knowledge from the other side. Baby was born on 9/21 weighing in at 5lbs 9 oz and 18 inches long. My birth story (ew that sounds so cheesy) was not one that was easy or particularly good. To say that I am happy to be alive is not a statement made in sarcasm or taken lightly. I tried to die about 3 times over the course of 2 days for different reasons. Baby is currently enjoying an all expense paid trip to the NICU while I focus on gaining strength. If anyone is interested on everything that can go wrong in a labor and after birth, feel free to message me, I’ve got almost all the bases covered. Except my actual delivery was super easy. Let me just say this. Rely on your core and your riding muscles those suckers will push that baby out in no time at all. I did not have a c-section only because they thought I wouldn’t survive the surgery. Not kidding at all.

So, I’m here, he’s here, and we are getting better every day.

Happy to chat with whoever wants to listen, but I AM THE .000005%. or some such nonsensical number for how badly things went when they shouldn’t have.[/QUOTE]

Congrats and I am so happy that you both made it through - how scary… I am PM’ing you.

[drmgncolor]

[QUOTE=ilmjumper;8334930]
Well, the full moon came and went without a hitch [/QUOTE]

Well, the super blood moon came through for one of us… No induction needed.

@pinkpony321;8335102

We have one other person waiting to go any time now, correct? Drmgncolor, have you had your little one yet?

I’m writing from the throws of deep labor. How, you ask? Excellent drugs.
I’m going on 20 hours of active labor and no sleep in 48 hours (I “slept” horribly Sat night and started labor at midnight last night.) I’m 9.75 cm dilated, and there is a minuscule lip cupping his head and not allowing me to push him through quite yet. So… We wait. Good news is that kiddo is in no distress and appears quite content.

@caballogurl;8335297

Sometimes it is important to remember how lucky we are, even if for some of us it takes a couple tries.

Indeed. DH and I decided against IVF for personal reasons and resigned ourselves to being DINKS. 5 years later we were given a gift. I’d really like to meet this gift if he will come out to play.

Hugs to everyone struggling with fertility and miscarriages. Been there, done that and am proof you should never really “give up.” Miracles do happen.

[She_s_Pure_Gold]

Dreaming good luck to you! Hope your little one makes his arrival soon and everything goes well!! Thinking of you