I’d like to think that most foxhunters have reasonably good manners. If it were me, and I saw someone wearing hunt attire at a show, I would no doubt seek to chat them up to inquire about which hunt they are with (if I don’t already know from collar and/or buttons). If the huntstuffwearer were to say ‘oh, I don’t hunt,’ I’d probably say ‘oh, dear, then you really need to take that collar off, and switch your buttons to plain black.’ Or, maybe, ‘oh, dear, I hope the members of that hunt never see you…’
But then I’m not shy. Not too many years back, I observed a young lady getting after her nice horse inappropriately at a competitive trail ride (she was asking the horse to back, and he was backing, except she seemed to think she was asking for a sidepass, and so beating on the horse for disobedience). After I politely suggested she might want to call it a day and take her horse home, and she unleashed a stream of invectives, I said (whipping out my cell phone) fine, I’ll call the animal control folks on over, we can’t have people like you giving horse owners a bad name. She said something about telling her Mom on me, and I said, oh, great, your Mom’s here, where, I’d like to speak to her. At which point she made good her escape to the horse trailer. And I approached the trail ride organizers and said I’d complain loudly if that young lady got any awards (they were too meek to dq her outright).