As a responsible boarder who is well aware of the cost and work involved in operating a facility, this mentality breaks my heart. Yet I’ve seen enough “crazy” in the boarders passing through the doors at the place where I’m at, to understand why barn owners are adopting this mindset.
They do. They absolutely do. The crap my previous BM put up with was enough to convince her to shut down the entire operation, and now the 40-stall barn sits empty. And I’m sure I didn’t even know the half of it! She was incredibly professional, and no the place wasn’t perfect, but there was always someone who felt she wasn’t doing ENOUGH. Same story for the place previously, she just got sick of being challenged all the time.
That said, there are still decent boarders out there. I’m on field board, and pitch in by mucking-out the field shelter on the regular, checking for (and fixing) holes in the slow feeder net, adding salt licks (with permission) as well as other enrichment. I’ve also spent countless hours picking-out the field of manure - nobody else does it. So no, the place isn’t perfect. But I’ve come to understand that at every barn there’s a compromise. And this one checks 8 boxes out of 10.
Would a discount on my board be nice for the extra work I put in? Sure! But I also understand I’m doing this voluntarily, and I also understand what a tough business this is and like to think I’m making the BO’s life 1% easier by pitching-in as I’m able.
So again, it breaks my heart to hear that the mindset of many barn owners is anti-boarder. Because when it comes time to move my mare (the last two places I was at closed, so I realize it’s only a matter of time), our options will be so very limited because a glut of other entitled and self-important horse owners are ruining it for everyone. And there’s no insinuation that the OP is one of these, this is just a general comment based on many of the comments here along with my own personal experience.
(Uh oh, I’m off on a tangent now ) The number of boarders the current BO has lauded or gushed about in my presence, only to have them a) make some rude or snarky comment to someone else at the facility b) complain about any given standard of care, and then c) disappear overnight without supplying 30 days notice (or in some cases even owing backdated board) is … substantial.