You say you don’t understand, so let me clarify in what way I felt this was an uninvited personal attack. If you really don’t understand I will explain.
<BLOCKQUOTE class=“ip-ubbcode-quote”><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>I didn’t mean to imply that you are getting no support, Snowbird, but there is the perception problem again and it is something we continue to struggle with.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
By making the statement you imply that I am getting no support and that somehow I have a problem with the way I am perceived. A negative statement in the above context reinforces the negative which might otherwise not exist, I do take that very personally.
<BLOCKQUOTE class=“ip-ubbcode-quote”><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>I’m also not saying “carry on,” but I AM saying it seems like you are out in the woods alone on this one and that’s not a good thing.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
So then I gather what you really mean is you don’t think I should “carry on” and that I should quit because I am all alone in my views and as you say this is not a good thing.
That is based on your assumption that what you say is true. I am far from alone in my support of these changes therefore it is a good thing and YES! I am not going to stop. I am not sure what criteria you used to make your measurement of my situation.
But, just for the sake of discussion who asked for your opinion of my life, my purposes or the way I project myself. And, if you were doing this in the friendly way you tried to use to disguise your criticism of me personally, you would do that privately and not publicly if you still were a friend.
<BLOCKQUOTE class=“ip-ubbcode-quote”><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>It may simply because this is a busy time for people right now (the BB is kinda slow–I wish I didn’t have the time to be on it right now, alas, but my knee is so screwed up I can’t ride and I haven’t been able to work, much less prepare and show, anything for over three months now).<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
The BB is not slow as you well know that is a very lame excuse and not valid and very patronizing. I am sorry that you are injured and can’t ride, that’s hardly an excuse to take it out on me. Does it make you feel better if you can see someone else hurt?
<BLOCKQUOTE class=“ip-ubbcode-quote”><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Anyway, I am getting emails about the perception part, Snowbird. That’s why I’m saying this.[/quote}
I don’t suppose it is possible that the people who have said such things just wanted to motivate you do exactly this in the hope that this might stop the process. That’s what I assumed when people emailed me negative things about your presentation on this public forum of your views.
[quote]Sometimes, one makes the effort NOT because it will achieve something, but rather
because of the impression it makes, right?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
Unless, you are talking about yourself, I certainly have never needed to try and impress anyone. Nor would I do anything for such a shallow reason.
<BLOCKQUOTE class=“ip-ubbcode-quote”><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>As long as its just one or two people out there, militant crazies of not, it carries little weight.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
And, it is also true that when people have no evidence to refute an argument they resort to name calling. The incident you quote was from just such a person.
<BLOCKQUOTE class=“ip-ubbcode-quote”><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>It is tiring trying to get people to
stand up and be counted, and I agree with you that it isn’t likely to ever succeed given
this particular crowd,<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
And, that reference is out of context, since it referred to an email between you and I regarding the ad and nothing more. I think it is a very difficult thing because we would need to raise a couple of thousand dollars and I thought that was unlikely. I do not accept your derogatory view of “this particular crowd.”
Perhaps for you it is tiring but for me it is stimulating and rewarding. I take pleasure in the work that I do to help people to realize what is…and what can be fixed. What is tiring is when people sit around whineing and not attempting to fix the problem or screw things up.
<BLOCKQUOTE class=“ip-ubbcode-quote”><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR> but that doesn’t mean we should stop trying. Why don’t you at least ask those who email you privately if you can copy snippets here and there from their emails–anonymously, of course–and post them here?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
That may be your perception of how to handle these things but everyone who emails me is quite capable and intelligent enough to post what they like on any BB. I don’t remember asking your opinion about how to handle my email. And, if any of them wanted to be quoted they would do so under their own name.
Just because you think this is the right way does not make it so!
<BLOCKQUOTE class=“ip-ubbcode-quote”><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>I’m saying you need to find ways to indicate that support IS out there–otherwise, I fear, disbelief from the doubters may sabotage your efforts.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
Your implication that there is no support is yours and that’s all. It may be how you feel, and for that I am sorry. There is little doubt that the doubters are already opposed to our program and plans here on the BB and intend to do what they can to ruin the plan. Apparently, they have already convinced you. Yes! they may stop the progress of the plans but it’s better to have tried and failed than not to have tried at all.
<BLOCKQUOTE class=“ip-ubbcode-quote”><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Don’t give up on the campaigning, no matter how discouraging it seems. Campaigns take time to have an effect and they have NO effect if they aren’t visible!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
Another implied assumption on your part it doesn’t seem at all discouraging, actually we are doing better than I expected. I am really pleased with the responses on all the BBs and through my mail and email and looking at the AHSA Web Site I think we have already accomplished more than I expected in a shorter time.
You have not been around long enough to know that having the schedule for the convention four months ahead is a revelation. That to have any kind of copy of all the proposed rules changes is a great gift that we never had, and to have them 4 months ahead of the convention is almost a miracle. Just the fact that our 10 changes made the list and were not buried is remarkable.
So I have a lot of confidence that we can revise the By-Laws, one way or another it will happen. We can compromise some issues but I do believe there is a concession that we have the right to know not that we have the right to vote yet.
If you think that I even considered making any change in the direction I have planned, then you don’t know me at all.
<BLOCKQUOTE class=“ip-ubbcode-quote”><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>However, as I’ve said before, this is not a personal thing for me. It is an interesting exercise.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
And that is the difference between us, to me this is not an exercise at honing my skills. And, it is very personal and close to my heart because I believe that it needs to be done and that it can be done and with help it will be done.
To me this is a mission to try and make something wonderful for the children survive until they grow up. A democratically run association on which they can depend.
I certainly wish that if you wanted to have this discussion you would have been considerate enough to do it privately.