I’ve been hearing riders weight with tack should be no more than 20% of the horses weight. But other variables can come in to play such as the horses build, horses condition, how balanced the rider is, type of riding, etc.
My husband’s horse (Charlie) has re injured his suspensory ligament & in my heart I believe Charlie’s riding career is over. Hopefully we’ll be able to get him pasture sound so we’re not faced with putting him to sleep. He’s going to the vet’s today for ultrasounds & xrays to let us know his fate. Everyone is telling me to just let my husband ride my 15 yo arab mare. I am NOT comfortable with this as she’s somewhat light bone 14.3 H & my husband is 250 lbs (without tack) & rides on “his pockets” & to one side. I’ve had several conversations with him that he needs to shift his weight to the left & then he gets angry at me. Even our friends that we trail ride with say they’re surprised his horse Charlie never has a sore back. Then there’s the disagreement on saddles. I struggled for years finding a saddle for my mare that wouldn’t make her back sore, finally I started riding her in a BMSS & she became a different horse, sooo much happier & pain free. But my husband refuses to ride her in a BMSS & insists on using his saddle. I can’t help but get angry when we go to McD’s & he gets a 20 piece chicken nugget for himself, I just sit there & think of my poor mare & what if he does start riding her.
I hate to be selfish & not let my husband ride my mare but I also feel like I’m not doing what’s in my mare’s best interest if I allow my husband to ride her knowing in my heart it’s not right. When we go out & ride it’s for several hours over rocky terrain & lots of hills. My mare is not in shape right now she’s enjoying life in our pasture for I’ve been riding my young horse getting him ready for his first CTR. I feel guilty that I have two sound rideable horses & my husband has none. Actually we have a older arab mare that is more suited for him to ride but she freaks out in our slant load trailer when I try to move the partition over. She was a rescue case we originally got for him to ride, I’ve been telling my husband for years now to work with her on her trailer issues so he can start riding her but he hasn’t. He also has a yearling filly but obviously he can’t ride her. I’m feeling all kind of emotions right now, I’m worried sick over Charlie’s ankle, angry that I feel pressured to do wrong by my mare, frustrated because hubby won’t work with the mare that’s more suited for him, and sad for my husband because his horse is injured & he can’t ride with us.
The group of friends we ride with are CTR/Endurance riders so we’ve been conditioning lately for a ride we’re going to in July. So even if I would break down & let my husband ride my mare she’s no where near in shape enough to tackle the type of riding we’re doing. I thought about looking around for a lease on a horse for him to ride until his yearling filly is a few years older. Maybe I’m over reacting & I should let my husband ride her, but I’d never forgive myself if something happened to her that I could’ve prevented. Sorry to vent on & on about this, thanks for listening.