I don’t know that we don’t care about it; I think this has always been a hard concept. If your neighbor is arrested for murdering his wife, it’s hard not to think the worst (and always wonder even if he’s acquitted) in spite of the innocent until proven guilty concept. I find that concept to largely be legal, where socially, the person is often vilified past the point of no return even when innocent.
In the nature of sexual assault or misconduct, it’s incredibly difficult because victims statistically aren’t believed AND statistically don’t lie. Sexual assault or misconduct in a setting that involves children makes it even more sensitive and critical to respond in a way that keeps everyone safe until the investigation concludes. Can you imagine the outcry if an alleged offender was left un-suspended and it turned out he abused more people or children during the investigation? I’d be furious if my child was abused and later learned that the perpetrator was being investigated for the same offense.
We have an obligation to believe the victim; we also have an obligation to ensure enough evidence exists to proceed with an investigation that can ruin someone’s life.
Truly I think it’s a case where the public and social media at large will never be happy. Jimmy Williams has been (mostly) appropriately tarnished, yet what if the proceedings against him were via a Safe Sport complaint lodged by a single person about a 30 year-old incident? We accepted the Jimmy Williams story because it was researched and brought forth in a thorough and well-documented and corroborated manner. I would guess if it had been handled like this Safe Sport incident, it may have been an entirely different public outcome.
Does a thoroughly corroborated and documented and NY Times published story hold any more truth than a single person (and now a second) coming forward about a (theoretically) 30 year old incident of undetermined severity? Not necessarily, but publicly, it sure seems to.
Does a woman who looks back and after maturity and therapy now realizes that a 30 year old relationship that she accepted at the time (and that was perhaps “culturally acceptable” at the time) was actually highly inappropriate and an abuse of power somehow lose her right to speak up and make sure the same isn’t happening to others by the same person because it was “30 years ago and culturally acceptable?”
Remember, Larry Nassar molested girls in front of their parents and in most cases, neither the parent or athlete realized it was abuse until later. Does that invalidate it? I believe it was Ally Raisman who said one of the hardest things about it was actually realizing she was abused when she thought she was getting medical help.
I believe some (or most) of the blame resides in each of us participating in social media. Somehow in 2019 we all think our opinions deserve a Nobel prize; we think we have the right to know everything; we think that we DO know everything, and we’re quick to share and speculate and spread ideas and rumors prior to the facts being found. Look at how much proof Woodward and Bernstein had to have to publish Watergate. This day in age, it would have been up 10 minutes after the initial speculation, and who the hell cares if it’s true.
For all who are calling for transparency…are you willing to WAIT to get all up in feathers on social media until due process has occurred and transparency can be given? For those calling for innocence prior to proven guilt, did you dig in to the gossip and participate in the speculations? Can we let go of the rumor mill and the googling and the digging as if we have some right to know all the gritty details? Can we come up with a process that is trustworthy to get accurate results - and then actually trust the process?