Thank you all! Haven’t managed any decluttering yet but we got the tall boy settled at the new farm and oh man am I enjoying being a client.
I show up, watch her longe him, help with a bath (he’s kind of green and the wash rack is new and scary!), hold for a grooming so he doesn’t roll, sit and socialize for a bit and go home.
I didn’t have to touch hay, nothing to clean or tidy - it was lovely. His stall was immaculate, his water buckets full, nothing to sweep or mutter at. He has a run so he can go in and out and I don’t have to worry about him doing something stupid in the pasture (this one was made for show horse life). I was still clean enough to go out to eat afterward without changing
There was nothing on my perpetual running to do list like I have at my farm. I don’t look around her farm and tally up all the things that need to be done - I’m sure she has them too, but it is different when it isn’t your to do list. I didn’t notice every single one of her weeds or every cobweb, or whatever. And not that she has a weedy, cobwebby, farm (nor do I), it is just that when it is yours all that sh*t weighs on you.
What I pay in board and training is a tiny fraction of the cost and concern of owning a barn. I knew that already, but wow was the contrast stark. The mental overhead is just so much.
Then I was thinking - oh man - if she is doing all the “risky” work and I’m just showing up as a client, I might actually be able to keep this horse too - her barn is super affordable for what I get and he isn’t a terrible horse (a little quirky, but I’ve always had quirky so it doesn’t bother me).
If he is in daily training and he is prepped for me, the chances of me coming off are significantly slimmer. He is headed for a different division than my other horse, the one I was planning on keeping, so it could work. I don’t have to ride him until he is ready.
And it isn’t like I’ve lost my actual riding skills, just can’t take the beating that riding and working multiple green horses a day takes any more. Now I can work on my fitness in a controlled environment (so I don’t lose that) and still maybe ride!
Right now it is offsetting the pain of selling the farm a little to live in this luxury. I can have my horse clean and gorgeous and worked and I don’t have to lift a finger. If I go on vacation, they still get worked. If I can’t ride for a week because I’m busy at work, they still get worked. I mean, come on - how awesome is that.
I was inspired enough to come home and longe and groom the other boy that I’m keeping - I had been avoiding working them in part because it felt so raw. Almost like if I could just keep them at arms length then I wouldn’t feel so sad about everything.
But I feel so much better now and want him to be in decent shape so when the farm sells and I move this one, we will be able to hit the ground running.
Now if we could just figure out where we want to live, then it will make things so much easier.