Very sad news, but you have done more than anyone could have for her. I love these old lady mares, but it is best to make the decision a little earlier than you really want to, to prevent a tragic ending later. You have done well by her, and are still doing well by her to let her go now.
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So sorry. You did your best. Do the last good thing you can for her.
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I havenât commented but have followed along. I echo everyone else that you did the absolute best you could for Sweetie and youâve made her last weeks so much better than they would have been otherwise. Even if money were no object at all, Iâm not sure it makes sense to do anything else other than spoil her one last day and let her go. It doesnât sound like there is much good left for her, only more decline. Thank you for caring and trying and Iâm sorry youâre going to lose her sooner than youâd like.
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Thank you for the reply and the information, which was not owed to us. You have gone above and beyond, and with the prognosis and situation you are describing, it is time. It is sad that she has lost interest in her food, and along with everything else you listed, and with winter coming on, one more signal and good reason to make The Call.
This thread has been very informative. Thank you for sharing with us.
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Thanks everyone. You all taught me so much during this short and humbling 1.5 months. Talked to the vet after work. We agreed on the decision to let her go before she gets worse. She is going to rest Wednesday, either morning or afternoon, waiting to hear back from burial guy on which time works best for him or his dad. The longest her remains will have to lay out may be from about 2 till 430 when he gets off work if his dad cannot do it, so I am going to hope she goes down before the final injection, and hopefully position her body so I can tie her legs up with baling twine as rigimortis sets in.
Let daughter know, told her I am really sorry and Iâm proud of her for handling it wellâŠshe goes âwe have buried 3 other pets here mom you get used to itâŠâ Oh dear lordâŠsmh!!
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I know it wasnât owed, and it may sound weird, but having you guys with me on this journey has been super helpful, educational for me, and a âmental hand holdingâ in my head. All dh had to say was âit can never be something small or easy with you can it? That was a month or so of wasting moneyââŠ
So having people who actually understand, are supportive and compassionate has meant the world to me.
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Well that sucks. But you gave her a good final time. Good decision especially since itâs getting on winter and winter weather is no fun if youâre not feeling good
She knows youâve done your best. Will be thinking of you and her to the end, and after
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So sorry, @carman_liz. I was reading along and hoping for a better outcome. What a lucky girl Sweetie has been to have you these past few weeks
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So sorry for you that this is the outcome, but what a total blessing for Sweetie to have known your love and amazing care for the final months of her life. You will have another guardian angel looking down on you for sure!
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Ah, man. Iâm so sorry to read the news. I have no doubt you are doing whatâs in the best interest for her. I support your decision 100 percent. Iâm so glad this mare found you. You gave her love and peace in her final days and a dignified and peaceful ending. What a truly lucky mare.
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Iâve been following your posts. Iâm so sorry to hear about this. I just lost my mare a week ago. I feel your pain. Youâre doing the right thing. How amazing of you to give this horse comfort and love in her last days.
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Iâm so sorry. Not the outcome anyone was hoping for but you gave her a chance and will give her a comfortable ending.
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I foster rescue cats, and sometimes their time is long, sometimes their time is short.
What is most important is that their time is filled with love.
You have done this with Sweetie - her last memory of this time on earth will be of love and contentment.
Hugs!
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I am so sorry, @carman_liz. You have been a real blessing to Sweetie and I think this was all timed and didnât just âhappenâ for the two of you. Peace be with you both ⊠and with DH! Maybe he is being a âtypical maleâ and showing irritation in place of sorrow for you and Sweetie?
Your daughter sounds pretty realistic for a 9yo, itâs all confusing enough for us grown-ups so maybe sheâs working it out as best she can.
Hugs to you all.
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When we rescue, we canât always know what hidden issues lay in wait.
In AA we have a saying, expectations are planned disappointment.
Itâs hard not to imagine the what ifs of a full recovery but it can really sting when we entertain that and it goes awry.
Dealing with what is, with kindness, is the only way. Thank you for all you put into offering her kindness.
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I am so sorry. Many hugs to you.
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I am so sorry. With regard to your decision, there is no way I would let this lovely mare endure winter.
Your saga has been a living classroom. Thank you for sharing.
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Iâm so sorry to hear this. Hugs.
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Sometimes when I need them most, words come hard. So Iâm just going to say Iâll be thinking of you and Sweetie. You did good. Hugs to you and your family.
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Iâm so sorry that the news isnât better. Heck, Iâm just an electronic bystander, and even Iâm tearing up a bit.
I know this is not the outcome you wanted. But even so, you helped a starving and defenseless animal feel safe, respected, and full. You took away her anxiety and as much of her physical discomfort as you could. You also modeled compassion and care â including the gift of knowing when to say âenoughâ â for your daughter. Those are not small things, nor are they a waste of time and money.
As a Doctor Who fan, my brain would chirp âHello, Sweetie!â every time a new post or picture appeared. Thank you for bringing Sweetieâs COTH fan club with you on this journey. Youâve made us all a lot bigger on the inside.
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