I’m glad you’ve left, but I personally wouldn’t have paid for those. I don’t think you’ve seen the last of bills being sent your way from “services” she “forgot to bill you for.”
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Seeing as the horse was still at that barn, I think it was smart to pay it (even if infuriating).
Now that Dobbin is elsewhere, I hope OP tells the ex-BO to take a flying leap if she is dumb enough to send a bill for anything else!
@Loudlaugh12 Hope Dobbin settles into the new barn without an ear flick and you are both happy there for many years to come.
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I would not respond to her “goodbye” text or anything else she sends you going forward. You have been beyond “above board” with all her baloney. Block her # on your phone and her emails. Not. one. more. word.
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Agree with this 100%. If she really felt that way, she wouldn’t have treated you the way she did.
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He’s at new barn, tucked in for the night. New trainer gets first ride on him tomorrow (he looked a little wild-eyed and snorty, and I’m a wimp). We took a walk around the indoor to stretch his legs. His new stall is big with three big windows. I’m relieved that he’s moved, safe and sound.
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Yay!!! Woot! Woot! Wishing you and your horse all the best in your new home.
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So happy your move is over!
And I agree with blocking her on everything.
I know how upsetting her change in attitude is -(I just had a BM do something similar) but she is not worth your time and effort!!
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Wait before you block. Limit her exposure in such a way she doesn’t realize it.
She will be looking for a reason to make you the bad guy. Be dull. Go gray. Wait a little and then just disappear.
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It’s always useful to block because then you don’t have to think about her anymore.
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I ended up sending a very simple “he’s safe and sound and thanks for everything” text. I really didn’t want to, but it didn’t take much out of me so whatever.
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You are a far better person than she is!
I agree with @Knights_Mom above. Do not block. Limit what she can see.
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If she starts to pester you for imaginary bills etc then you can block.
It depends on your platform. If you unfriend or even block someone on FB it’s very subtle. The recipient isn’t notified. You just disappear. I don’t know how it works on Instagram or Youtube.
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Yes but… I highly doubt someone like this trainer is not going to notice that they are blocked. They might not notice the first day but they will notice eventually.
It is really easy to post stuff to an edited friends list (all friends except the trainer in other words).
The the trainer can just assume the OP has not posted anything lately.
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I guess I’ll update on first full day at new farm. From what I was told, turnout in the morning was uneventful. Yesterday, I had (wisely) asked new trainer to be first to ride him, as he hadn’t been off property in a while and certainly hadn’t moved in much longer. He was a little wide-eyed tacking up in new surroundings. Handed him over to trainer and went to outdoor where he was curious as to new everything. Then, he got keyed up by a horse running in a paddock, so trainer (wisely) decided to lunge him. She trotted him down, then put him back in his stall to rest for an hour. Then got back on and…we had civilized gentleman! He was wiped after all that. Got a bath (the wash stalls are weird so I was shocked when he strolled right in—I guess he was tired!). I’ll ride him tomorrow.
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Me, I’d let the lad settle in for a bit, but glad to hear he is in his new place.
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I never understand riding your horse immediately at a new barn. It’s not the same as a horse show and they know it. I find even with a calm sweet horse it takes them a week to settle and really breathe and relax. I give them 2 days just following the normal schedule field/stall I’ll come give them treats check for scrapes from a new herd but I don’t even groom. After that I’ll work my way from grooming on cross ties, walking around the arena to riding usually over a full week. Zero punishment for being extra looky that means it too soon to ask what I’m asking.
I’m glad you were able to move! Hoping your horse settles in quickly
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Hmmmm. I guess I can see it both ways. On one hand, he’s an energetic fellow who is used to being worked and it’s not a bad thing to get some energy out while settling in to a new place. On the other hand, it did take him most of the week to chill out. Most people told me it’s typical to just ride the day after they arrive and he was fresh but not nuts. I think his brain desperately needed the change too. He has lots to explore at the new place in terms of fields and trails!
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On the other hand a known, routine ride with the familiar human can provide a comfort zone even in a new environment and give the horse a chance to relax as they know what’s expected of them.
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I see nothing wrong with a horse that is used to being ridden regularly being ridden when moved to a new barn.
I think it was smart to know your limit and have the professional doing the riding. A good ride in a new place is laying ground work for good rides in new places (horse shows) in the future.
Glad to hear he is settling in and exploring his new barn. Thanks for the updates. Love hearing them.
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Folks have you never taken a horse to a show or a clinic? Do you get there days early to let the horse settle? Maybe for massive shows but seriously…horses can go new places and get ridden in the same day ,)
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