I’m feeling a bit defensive here because I think I’m the only person who posted a video of myself on this thread so I assume you’re talking about me, but I’ll throw in my two cents. My entire journey started because I wanted to get that harmony, that togetherness, get to my horse’s mind so that he’d want to be with me, so I hope you’re not implying that I’m ignoring that part of my horse. While my timing may not be perfect, my entire goal is focused on him and working in true partnership. So while my actions may not be of one who is executing it perfectly, my mindset is of someone who tries really hard.
In learning this type of horsemanship, I think it is easier to talk about moving the feet because if you have a horse who really isn’t with you, then that’s where it starts (speaking from my own experience). While many have heard over the years about “the one who makes the other one moves is the winner” it is really hard to break down until you start playing with it yourself. You may not realize that every time your horse moves to change YOUR balance, that he’s “won” that little test. While you might think in bigger terms, like actually taking a step, the horse is thinking in minute terms of making you just shift your weight back as he creeps into your space. I still struggle with that.
I think that to learn this, you have to start somewhere. It is quite a bit easier to teach people (and for most people to learn) to move the feet, which does affect change in the horse’s mind. It is quite a bit harder to say “change your horse’s mindset” or “get him with you” - HOW? If most people are ignorant of how their horse feels to begin with, how are you going to get them to make it better? You change the horse’s body and by doing that, getting to the mind is one of the results. The how is the mechanical part, and I think (or I hope, at least), that once people go through the how, then they’ll “get it.” The horse will be the teacher in that respect. They get the horse following a feel, they get the horse moving off of body language, and it is such an enticing feeling that it causes you to search for it more and to see what else you can do to produce that “togetherness” for longer and longer periods of time or more consistency.
I do get what you’re saying, but you can’t go from zero to 100 - you have to go through the journey. What was good and acceptable to me 9 months ago has changed and now I’m going for more (softness, subtlety, willingness, etc.). You give people the tools to learn, but the horse is the ultimate teacher.
One must also take into consideration the personality of the horse - I know how soft I’d ultimately like to be, but how firm I have to start with depends on what’s going on, what sort of mood he’s in that day, etc. Not all horses are the same, obviously.
With regard to putting these people up on a pedestal, I think we have to be careful about that. No one came out of the womb knowing how to be an exceptional horseman, and I’d say that these people have gotten to the point they are through making a lot of mistakes. Likely in their younger years they didn’t think of the horse 100% of the time, they didn’t have perfect timing, they didn’t care what the horse was ‘feeling’ because they had to go out and go to work and make it happen. I think we need to be careful to strive to be good horsemen/women, be firm and fair, work with the horse’s best interests at heart, but not get to the point of magical butterflies and fairy tales.