Long time lurker. stumped on a situation I thought y’all could help with. I’ll try to be brief.
My DH likes camping and I like horses. So we’d like to blend the two. Which leads to the purchase of a 2nd horse (which I’ve been itching at for for awhile). A second horse would allow for us to do family trail rides, an opportunity for the children or DH to join me on rides/shows, and give me a second horse to enjoy.
My preference for a second horse is an Eventer as I looove jumping and dressage. We’re talking low level stuff here. No ones going to WEF. I have wanted to try eventing for some time. My current horse (Belgian x) is not suitable for eventing or SJ. He makes a lovely dressage horse and 2’6” hunter for the local and schooling shows. I like running around local circuits and the occasional rated show. I’m completely content as he’s a lovely guy and I enjoy the progress. But for our family we’d like a second horse.
So in discussion with DH, he tells me he wishes to ride Western. Argh. I don’t ride western. Well, I did as a kid, but not well, and only cause I liked speed events (hence, my love for SJ) and reining. I don’t have western gear (yes it could be acquired).
I have nothing against western and I admire much of it. I just know very little of it. I know enough to be dangerous. Resident trainer at my barn could give him the basics, but our trainers teach hunter and dressage. Hauling out for WP lessons for DH isn’t an option - he wants neat and easy - and really doesn’t need more than the basics anyways.
So now I’m scratching my head wondering if a husband horse eventer (that neck reins) exists. Or if I bite the bullet and buy the dead broke trail horse (true trail horse that has BTDT and can carry a flag while being buzzed by mopeds with a shotgun firing nearby).
I feel like I MUST put him on something genuinely dead broke that will never shake his confidence so that I can nurture this interest. Yes, it’s somewhat selfish so that he’ll want to trail ride and do “all the things” horsy with me.
OTOH, I have no problem training my current horse and attending a half dozen shows without DH. Inviting him into this realm may complicate MY life.
I’m so conflicted as to what I’m shopping for - or if I’m really shopping for anything!