it seems to me that any group with common interests tends to get focused on that interest to the exclusion of other things.
I’ve been in gatherings where the women were in the living room talking about nothing but children (in gross detail), recipes, and various housewifery topics while the men were in the kitchen talking ballgames, business and sniggery jokes.
I’ve been at entertainment industry functions - now there’s a GOOD place to find disfunctional people! Topics: agents, facelifts, agents, self, agents, self, etc.
I’ve been to business gatherings - golf, latest government corporate welfare packages, golf, office gossip, golf.
Then I went to a meeting of our local horse people. Topics: horses, kids, other farm animals and functions, politics, history, african violets, music, theater, etc. etc.
The difference, IMO? Our horse group mostly consists of people who have known each other a long time and feel comfortable discussing a wide range of topics, rather than just the safe neutral ground of one shared interest. We even feel safe disagreeing with each other.
So were all the people at the other groups disfunctional? Not necesarily. I believe that everyone had more facets than were shown at these various functions, but the nature of the gatherings didn’t really offer the opportunity to find out, since everyone was being very PC and careful to stay on neutral ground.
Point is, it takes awhile to feel that conversation outside a circumscribed area is appropriate - and if you’re a pro, why would you take a chance on offending potential clients by expressing opinions on topics outside your field which might not be in agreement with the person(s) with whom you are conversing?
There’s an idea in here somewhere -