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Also, 99% of the time, I have NO help at all, which is why I’m not able to keep a header around to help me. Getting my husband to help is not easy, and he is not patient or cooperative when it comes to handling this green driving situation. I really do not have any other help, sides from the very occasional help I can get from some driving club members.
So I guess that pretty much at a dead end, doesn’t it? Can’t train him myself, having a heck of a lot of trouble confirming anything with a trainer so I can’t seem to nail down the help I need… hmmm… either this isn’t going to happen, or it’s going to take years![/QUOTE]
Well, I don’t have it near as rough as Butler, the added bonus of a 2 year old :lol: but I’m a beginner doing it 99% alone too, and, really… it can be done. But like Butler says you need to grow a pair :lol:
My added bonus is that I’m working with a horse that was a SOB for years as a riding horse, really had me quite frightened at times. But, again like Butler said, I pulled on my big girl panties and just went at it, and kept at it until things got sorted out.
When I do something scary, like go around the trails for the first time where my horse historically used to bolt, or use a new vehicle for the first time, or do spook training, etc., I do make sure to have a friend with me… just in case things go to heck. I show them the safety release points on my harness and explain to them what can go wrong and how to help us.
If I can’t get a friend, which is often, my old xc trainer comes occasionally to the farm to train others, so I hire her for an hour just to be an extra pair of hands. She has no driving background, but she’s horse savvy, I explain what I need and she helps me. Usually, just confidence of another person there while I try out new territory.
I do otherwise train, hitch and drive completely by myself. In fact I started this thread here as I have a new vehicle and I want to be the safest I can be.
I did finally have a driving knowledgeable friend come over yesterday which was a thrill. She pointed out some things I’m doing wrong (now that I’m in a 4wheeler and looking down at my horse, I can hold my reins better, I have to quit talking so much), and what I’m doing right (horse is obedient, patient and easy for a stranger to drive, harness and carriage fit well though still need some minor adjustments). And, she helped get me out of my comfort zone and onto the trails and was there to help me get through sticky spots like loose horses running, and fallen trees on the trail. She had a lot of fun running along side the carriage and then jumping on the back like a wild western movie:lol:
I sure wish I could get her out more often, but OTOH I was immensely proud when I saw how well trained and well behaved my horse was and I did it soup to nuts all on my own.
OP I’ve only barely skimmed the posts, so I apologize if I’m missing something but I’ll say this re trainers, it might be because its show season and they’re quite busy, it might be because they feel you need 90 and you can only afford 30, but what I would do in your shoes is talk to a trainer about having them out to train you train your horse, like a riding lesson. Have them come out 2-3x per month to oversee your training program and step in and help and correct when needed. Might be a real eye opener how firm you might need to be, or how you might be misunderstanding whats going on with your horse. It sounds like you’re doing better than you’re giving yourself credit for.
Re stopping, press your horse on, he probably doesn’t realize he needs to keep going especially since you ‘dismount’ your tire and then go head him. Just press him on and be firm about it until he goes. I made the same mistake with my horse, in the very beginning I was rewarding often, so he got used to slamming on the brakes. We have good trot to halt transitions, especially when backed up by the rustle of a cookie bag :lol: I often have to press my horse on when he’s looking to stop and get some reward. He’s a big boy now and can work harder and go longer.
It certainly may take some time, I’m at it for a solid year now with my own and we’re only just doing w/t on trails. I don’t expect to shake the ‘green as grass’ label for at least another year. We are moving at a snails pace… but thats ok. I don’t have a calendar with this horse, he is my hobby and entertainment, I don’t need to keep a schedule of any kind… I only need to stay safe and have fun.
Don’t beat yourself up. Get creative. Get brave and firm. Pat yourself on the back for having come this far, and roll up your sleeves to get ready to do the hard parts yet to come. If you can’t find someone to suit your resources, get creative and think up a new plan.
And have fun, don’t let this be a drag, enjoy it! You will look back one day and say ‘wow, I did this on my own’ you will be immensely proud. Stay safe!