Reposting this as a refresher regarding this person and the boy friendās past. Leopards donāt change their spots. Iām surprised someone hasnāt located court records regarding the banning of this person from the family home.
This whole idea that LKās father intervened to keep her living at the farm because she wasnāt allowed to live with her family doesnāt make sense to me. Why would it matter to him where she lives, as long as itās not at home? She is an adult woman and apparently has financial means. She could have rented or bought elsewhere, gone to a hotel or rented an Air BnB. Itās not like home or farm were the only two options so why would her father care so much?
Her father intervenes a lot to help her get her way. I honestly donāt think this person has financial means and her father supports her and her boyfriend for the most part. It is common knowledge they live in a small RV in an RV park in FL - not saying that is a bad thing but this time of year there would be inventory for bungalows and apartments with more creature comforts I would think.
Maybe I watch too much ID (and the like). It does not seem like a rare thing that an enabling parent will frequently do things to make their wayward childās life how that child wants it to be, even if it does not seem logical to the outside world.
Who knows? Perhaps in this personās mind they liked the idea of living on the Olympic trainerās property, like one of the team. Perhaps she perceived she would become one of his trainers or sole client because she was so talented (remember she saw herself as having Olympic potential) and perhaps sold that idea to her financial backer and demanded he help her stay. Who knows? I donāt even think she knows! It is apparent over the years her father would do anything to keep her out of trouble and away from the rest of the family.
Re: calling the inspector on the barn suite. Do you know this verified or is it speculation?
To me it is very plausible as the kind of thing conflict driven people do when they start to lose perspective. Iām going to call the building inspector on your house! meanwhile ignoring the fact that your own house is not to code and will be condemned. Like the doofus pot growers (pre legalization) who called the police to report someone stole their plants.
As far as father backing up her desire to live onsite, perhaps he thought she would exhibit more wholesome behavior in a farm atmosphere with some level of supervision. And it was free.
That makes sense. She thought she could get MB off the property or at least harass him, didnāt realize that the inspector would look at all the buildings and post her a vacate notice.
I have certainly seen people who love conflict and have a tendency to spiral into emotional states get to a point where they will do, or talk about doing, anything at all to āgetā the other party. They can get really self righteous and obsessed if thwarted. There is also a much larger subset of these kind of people who will talk loudly about doing these things but fortunately never follow through.
I feel that for some people, various levels of LEO function like tattling to the teacher in grade school as part of ongoing interpersonal conflict. Iām going to tell the teacher you said a dirty word, etc. Tattling to authority can be a kind of bullying. There can also be a level of exhibitionism or performance about it. Iām calling the police right now in front of you! Or, Iām calling the police and trying to emotionally manipulate them.
People who are like this are basically out of control, but itās precisely the out of control people who often claim to have a larger plan that makes sense on a higher level that the rest of us canāt see. When in fact they are digging themselves into a deeper hole (I almost said shooting themselves in the foot, but that seemed tasteless in the circumstances).
I have to say, I see elements of Tattling to Teacher on both sides here.
Agreed. Only one had a compulsion to destroy the other with increasingly dangerous and threatening bazaar tactics. Obsession is the only word that comes to mind.