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I would be weirded out by random people coming by the barn, ex owner or no. Ex owner is exactly equal to total stranger in this situation.
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Posting the picture was in poor taste.
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Old owner owes you nothing and frankly, her response was probably the right choice given that you seem a bit crazy. Just from looking at the instagram page overview, I see several photos of the same horse, yet you say she doesn’t post pics. What you actually mean is that she doesn’t post enough pics for you to live vicariously through her, and that is just plain creepy.
Okay everyone - the Instagram account is open and ANYONE can see it, so I don’t think over exposure is exactly an issue
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I would be weirded out by random people coming by the barn, ex owner or no. Ex owner is exactly equal to total stranger in this situation.
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Posting the picture was in poor taste.
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Old owner owes you nothing and frankly, her response was probably the right choice given that you seem a bit crazy. Just from looking at the instagram page overview, I see several photos of the same horse, yet you say she doesn’t post pics. What you actually mean is that she doesn’t post enough pics for you to live vicariously through her, and that is just plain creepy.[/QUOTE]
- Comparing me to a complete stranger is pretty extreme, for the first six months of her owning my old horse she text me with questions about the horse and of course I answered. So we were friendly
- The photo was NOT in poor taste, I simply posted it so the posters who kindly gave me the correct advice could see that she is indeed OK and, god forbid, wasn’t sent to an auction
- and calling me crazy and creepy…? That’s a little out of line. The last picture she posted was five months ago, so that’s why I complained I was anxious to see how she was doing
Selling horses is tough. Especially when it’s a logical decision to sell, not something that you desire to do.
When I sold my last horse who was very difficult for me to sell, the new owner, who was a friend of a friend, agreed to keep in touch and told me that I could come visit if I were in the area.
She kept her word and she and I became friends. She’s one of the nicest, most conscientious horse owners I’ve had the privilege of knowing. I got to visit my old horse a few times and she was gracious enough to let me ride him last summer. The horse was sadly euthanized this February. Even though I had sold the horse in September of 2012, I was still sad to hear of his passing. I am very lucky that she let me come visit him as many times as she did and be updated on his new life.
However, my last two horses that I had sold, I kept in touch with the owners for a while, but eventually lost touch. That doesn’t mean I care about the horses any less, it was just part of life.
I keep in touch with my current horse’s previous owner and let her know how he’s doing and send pictures every so often. She asked me if I would at the time I brought him home, but it was my choice to do that and I’m sure she understands that if I changed my mind, that is part of life.
I’m glad your mare appears to be doing well with her new owner.
So I almost posted this 4 pages ago but held off.
Sometimes previous owners are crazy. And sometimes that’s why there may be a problem with “saying hello.”
Not saying - of course - that it’s the case with the OP, but Instagram-stalking and posting to CoTH about it is getting up there. The new owner might just be trying to distance herself from the OP.
Maybe I’m heartless and cold and have no conscience, but I don’t really understand the whole wanting to keep tabs on and visit horses that have been sold. It’s a financial transaction, a business transaction…not a divorce settlement or custody arrangement. Once the bill of sale is signed and the horse is handed over, the previous owner has no more rights to the animal. Move on.
I mean, I’ve gotten the random email that’s like “Hey! Pony is doing great, just wanted to let you know!” or random texts from old friends who happen to move their horse to the barn where my old horse is boarded saying “OMG I saw Little Guy and he looks amazing!” but I would never actively seek out an arrangement with someone I sold a horse to so that I could visit any time and keep tabs on it. That would be weird.
I wouldn’t say there is a lack of morals, but I would say there could be some boundary issues.
Posting someone else’s picture to a website is poor form. I’m guessing that since the OP is youngish that she hasn’t been taught this basic concept. In the new world of social media, boundaries are not respected. Yes, we all know that anything we put out there could be used (someone used to take my pictures of my first horse and use them for a sim game. He was quite pretty…
) but people should understand that you really shouldn’t do it. It’s about respecting other people.
