When even a six-figure salary isn't enough to compete

What @Mander said!

I have hand tied wefts that are sewn in to two tracks. From what my stylist said they are pretty benign as far as damage goes, MUCH less than coloring which I don’t do at all. They are a bit of maintenance but the extra brushing is also suppose to be good and stimulate hair growth. I am really glad I bit the bullet and gave them a try.

Here is a before and after:

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That looks really good. I can’t believe what a difference that makes. Love your color, by the way, I would never color that beautiful color!!!

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Thank you!! I have a lot of grey and didn’t want to color it due to the chemicals and the cost. She matched it SO well.

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Is this washable? How does this work?

Yep! It’s human hair so the care isn’t too different. I wash once or twice a week with shampoo/conditioner that’s for extensions. Blow dry and style like normal. You don’t want to keep it wet for too long or it can get tangled and you want to either sleep on a satin pilllowcase or a satin lined bonnet to prevent tangling/damage. It was pretty quick to get used to.

I also am wearing a thin skull cap under my helmet to prevent damage. @MrsFitzDarcy_amp_Feliks that was something my stylist recommended too to help prevent hair damage, extensions or otherwise.

No, that is not how these animals function. They will do their best to minimize resources expended bc survival is difficult & energy is expensive. They are simply using every tool they have to respond to harassment, but make no mistake, it is no game for them.

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@wildlifer,

That was a joke. An anthropomorphic joke, for sure, but a joke. If you referring to this comment

Well, I have to admit, there’s some anthropomorphizing there too. But I certainly have seen foxes not expending much energy to avoid hounds, and I have seen foxes sitting down, upwind from hounds, quietly watching them work and then trotting off when the hounds are closer.

I also have seen foxes leave covert where there are plenty of earths, run a circular path past many other earths, and then go to ground back in their home covert. If it is no game and they are just responding to harassment/pressure, why not go to ground immediately?

Or why don’t they go to ground the moment they hear horses, hound and huntsman?

For that matter, why do they play with their prey, much like cats do?

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we never had to hunt for the foxes as they came to us (well at least before the coyotes moved in)

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They are careful animals & will try to avoid leading a threat directly back to their home or a place of safety. I don’t mean to thread derail, I just have always been bothered by these old misleading narratives about pursued animals “enjoying games.” Not trying to blame you for inventing that, it’s been around forever.

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I have routinely said where you go to undergrad only really matters for your first job. After that it’s on you. Often at a less prestigious state university there is way more opportunity to get involved than at a first tier public or Ivy. I went to a state school and got into multiple upper tier grad schools - because I brought something…different… to the table than the average 4.0 from a tier one school. And I did not struggle to keep up in grad school. At all.

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It’s looking way out of my price range, unfortunately, But out of curiousity, can you put them in medium length hair?

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I can attest to it being on the pricey side.

Yes you can! My natural hair is shoulder length at the longest and I have some shorter layers down to my chin now. I have seen my stylist work on other clients with hair shorter than mine too. The extensions come in different lengths and once they are put in, they cut them to look more natural to whatever style you want. If you pay attention to basically anyone on TV with long, full hair, it’s likely extensions; which shouldn’t have been surprising but I apparently just though I was the minority with sad hair. Come to find out Im not! A lot of stylists at the salon have them too. Since I got mine, I always try to see where their natural hair is and you can usually tell if you look hard enough!

My parents wanted to buy a house in the new Levittown development back in the 50’s when they cost like $3,000. They didn’t qualify because my mother made more money than my father and they didn’t take her salary into consideration. They ended up buying in Amityville instead.

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Just a funny (to me) anecdote. My SO and I both make 6 figure salaries, no student debt (strongly suggest for an advanced degree getting in at a company and then using their educational assistance program if it works for you). I drive an older car that runs just fine, but is the lesson horse of an A barn :wink: ) and my child sometimes says “I know we don’t have any money…” (which is then followed by me going through WHAT WE HAVE:

Which always 1. annoys me 2. I think it is funny and sad I look at our nice horses, our small farm, the brand new 2+1, diesel truck, shares in a GP horse, the shows we select to go to and realize (and drive it home to her) in the HORSE WORLD A circuit we are “poor”… reality is we are in no way struggling.

I have an advanced degree, paid for by a company, live in a lower cost area (due to current job), have a cute farm, and pick and choose what A shows to attend. I have currently started to do dressage and small unrated eventing and do not have to “pick and chose”- I can basically run for points if that is what I want.

Just another perspective…

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I find this almost impossible to believe, considering the fact that it was just the average 80’s horse shows in a few different towns. Wellington (did the Polo Club grounds even exist then?) Miami, Tampa, Ocala.

I suppose you could spend that much, but that would not have been common.

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Yes, pretty sure I was at the Polo Club show in the late 80s. I had to babysit my boss’s daughter when their barn manager needed a break and who was showing in the Medal/Maclay but not old enough to drive. I went with her to Devon when she was showing in the large pony division some time in the mid-80s so she would have graduated to a horse by the late 80s IIRC. And there were always horse shows in FL, used to be something that was unofficially referred to as the “sunshine circuit” although I was a kid so not sure what part of FL those shows were.

What became WEF was previously the “sunshine circuit” which was distributed around central and south Florida and I believe culminated with the American Invitational in Tampa.

Depending on your stabling situation and costs for training plus traveling to all the shows - I wouldn’t be surprised for it to cost $3k a week per horse back then.

Yeah, we first showed at the current place in '89. But the Polo Club was not that old when we moved up the road. LordHelpus specified 1980.

Stadium Jumping started in the mid 70s I think, and they named it WEF. It was certainly not the organized event at top venues the way it is today. I took horses to Ocala in the mid 80s and I can promise the costs weren’t even close to 3k a week, including the customer who flew back and forth.

Agree! I went to a fancy, top-tier liberal arts college. I was so proud of myself. My parents were so proud.

And guess what? Potential employers had never heard of it. I got a great education, but it didn’t benefit me one lick in the employment market. We all would’ve been much better off had I gone to a state school. I think about that a lot.

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