I am just not having luck with trainers/programs. About 6 months ago I started taking lessons with a new trainer (I’m a middle-aged re-rider). She has 2 horses, 1 was a lesson horse and a jumper for many years, and the other is a big mare that doesn’t jump and can’t be taken to shows. I wasn’t sure I wanted to jump anyways, so no big deal. I’m riding mostly the big mare, but the trainer asked me to get on the jumper a few times. I had seen this mare buck with both my trainer and another accomplished rider. Trainer says she fixed the issue although she was a bit spicy the prior day. I get on the mare despite my gut telling me not to, and luckily no issue. She starts teaching a new pre-teen beginner student on this mare. The mare mini-bucks the first lesson. Second lesson, 2 huge bucks when coming around a corner after trotting a ground pole and kid face-plants, right in front of both of her parents. I’m thinking to myself - that could have been me! and given that I am almost 4 times this kids’ age, my faceplant would have been a lot less graceful. Since this was the trainers only jumper, it’s all she had to put this kid on who wanted to learn to jump.
So now I am only getting on the bigger mare who is super quiet and has helped me greatly with confidence and doesn’t do anything dangerous, but now I’m really wondering if I should trust this trainer. Or do these things just happen? And am I limiting my progression by having access to only one horse? Searching for new barns is so exhausting so I prefer to make this work, but I also want to progress and be safe!