Why on earth would you care about what other riders or trainers thought about your saddle? As long as your trainer agrees with your fitter that it’s a good match, why do you care? Typically the trainer can give the best input as to how it fits you and affects your seat, and an independent saddle fitter can verify it fits your horse.
Why on earth would you care about what other riders or trainers thought about your gear? As long as it is clean safe and appropriate? What kind of emotional supply are you trying to get from the people with whom you are in direct competition for ribbons? Their opinion simply does not matter.
If you are between the ages of 11 and 15 I will encourage you to grow up fast and get a grip on what matters in life.
If you are over 15, or indeed an adult, it’s high time you stopped channelling your inner middle school insecure wannabe mean girl whatever and and grew up.
I’m being harsh on purpose because competing with horses is a sport. You go out to do your best and try to win ribbons over other people. The way you do a sport is get in your own head where you aren’t continually undermining yourself by second guessing your gear and self on purely superficial or consumerist grounds. I know that’s how young women are socialized to think and behave. It’s a way society keeps them dependent and powerless.
No one ever won a marathon worrying do these shorts make my ass look big, and are my sneakers the cool color of the week on YouTube