You do not owe us anything. We are here to support you.
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What an awful outcome! Why were anonymareās comments left and push back to them edited out?
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One might look at the retention of Anonās posts as illustrative of the kind of person they are.
Had they been removed, some poster in the future might not know what an unpleasant individual they were dealing with.
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Fair enough, but then the pushback to their comments should also remain so posters in the future know we donāt, as a community, support Anonymareās message or tone.
It just seems like the opposite of what should have happened once her posts were flagged.
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There are lots of people like her out there. Love to give Advice but never offer to help. A few years ago when we had a cold spell one winter (20 degrees and some snow on the ground) some nice person decided to dump their short hair dog out here. It could not stay here (cats), could not survive out in the cold, and I had to do something. So I went to FB. OMG lots of advice āDonāt take it thereā, ādonāt put it in the back of your truckā, ādonāt do thatā, ājust keep it for a few daysā but no help. āOh, I canāt possibly go out there and take it to the humane society, I am just so busy, but donāt take it to the closer one, they are a high kill shelterā. So I know not to ask other people to help solve these problems and I donāt tell people that they just need to try harder. (By the way, I got the dog to the no kill shelter but almost spent the night in the TSC parking lot with a bad truck battery.)
So unless you offer to take the dog, you have no right to be nasty about the solution. And maybe I missed it but I doubt it.
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If only she were actually speechless.
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@Cat_Tap are you on Facebook? Please look up the group Losing Lulu.
Itās a pet loss bereavement group focused on the humanās well being after a petās behavioral euthanasia.
I hope such a group, full of people who have been there and done that, helps you in your healing.
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Iām so sorry things went this way, @Cat_Tap. I would have done the same thing, and I hope you can find peace in the coming days.
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You know him better than anyone. If he is a danger to you and it seems he may have neurological issues surfacing that are causing aggression, you do what is best.
I wouldnāt pass him on.
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Heās gone. She handled it.
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Thanks . I didnāt read it all ( too long) . I see there were a few bumps in the road where someone got quite nasty but hope OP doesnāt take it to heart. They did what was best for all involved.
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Iām late to this thread but you did exactly the right thing. I wondered about him when he was knocking you down in the yard.
IMO you got a lemon and I am sorry you had to go through the heartache this has caused you.
There will be another dog out there for you if you want one.
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OP, Iām just letting you know that Iām thinking of you. Iām sure the house seems quiet without those jingling tags. You still did the right thing.
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A friend of mine was fostering for a rescue group. She took in a dog with some aggression issues they hoped could be handled. The dog severely attacked her and savaged her arm so badly they had to put it back together with a plate and screws. It took many months for her to heal and she has some permanent nerve damage. She is lucky to be alive. The dog was euthanized.
I have an older German shepherd that is probably going to be euthanized at some point. Not for aggression issues but sheās having some anxiety behavioral issues. Canāt control her bowels as she should. Will whine to go out and poop on the floor before you can get the door open, is terribly anxious about being separated for even 5 minutes. Weāve tried different medications but she wakes you up every night to go potty and has snapped at our other dog because her hip hurts. I know where we are headed with her, but in my heart I donāt want to do it. Some days she seems just fineā¦ Sometimes she sleeps through the night but itās less often than I would like. She is declining.
When we went to put Max down due to his advanced cancer, I was sitting in the waiting room at the vets and feeling so down. Someone walked in next to me with a puppy . That was the sweetest dog - it went right over to me and gave me kisses. Like I needed to know that there are other nice dogs out there. Just because we lose one doesnāt mean there isnāt another dog out there. Someone once told me the right dog will appear when the time is right. Iāve had a couple dogs that were wrong. One we had to rehome because she made it clear this wasnāt the house for her. She went on to be the lap dog to an older woman who eventually died of cancer- her husband told us the dog was glued to his wifeās side throughout everything. We had another dog, a weimaraner that could not be contained in any fence. She was also adopted out to a new home. That dog could jump a 5 ft fence like it was nothingā¦ Very athletic. Very friendly. I named her Sunny. We could not keep her on our property short of keeping her in jail. She would gladly go home with anyone. And here I thought the cats were bad about trying to go home with the farrierā¦
Iām sorry for your loss.
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Please donāt think you failed or let him down.
When I had my last dog PTS at home it took a long time, he didnāt want to go. The vet said from what she could tell he didnāt want to leave me. He was leaning into me to protect me right to his end. If I wasnāt there he most likely would have gone easier and sooner.
From that day I have vowed that I will not be present with a pet that is extremely bonded to me. I feel that no matter how hard I try to remain calm, they will feel my pain. I have been present with the vast majority of my pets when it was their time to go and they went peacefully. This wasnāt the case for my Loki. I do not plan on being with Rotten Ralph when itās his time to go. It really hurts to say this but I do believe he will go easier if Iām not there.
Best wishes to you Cat_Tap, I hope youāre healing well with your physical self. I also hope that you can come to terms with your emotional self with this experience. You did nothing wrong.
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Iāve gotten into fights on FB with people over this, there is a contingent that will never budge an inch over one having to be there. I think, especially if your pet somewhat regularly visits the vet and is taken to the back and had things done, etc itās probably the least stressful since they would be familiar with that happening. It would be just like any other visit.
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Maybe those people havenāt had a close enough bond with the ones they insisted to be with them as they pass? I swayed more towards what they believe before my experience with Loki.
If it has to be done at the vet office I would make sure that Ralph has a familiar person with him. I have always had euthanasia done at home for family pets with all the other pets nearby and in my arms. If itās decided that I am unable not to come unglued with Ralph my son (his 2nd favourite person) will be with him.
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Thank you for checking in. It has been a rough two weeks. Besides loosing the dog I had found a new lump in my gut. Saw my Oncologist yesterday and fortunately lump is probably just a cyst and not related to my previous cancer. Routine CT scan is in two months but doctor assured me I am OK.
Now living without a dog for the first time in my life. Always had at least one, sometimes two or three.
Right now I am just coasting. Not up to puppy training, afraid to get an older dog with issues so do not have any plans at the moment. Have had dogs dumped on my property in the past. Perhaps some poor needy creature will wander up my driveway.
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