Yeah I got my grandma she knows about it. I live with my grandma on the same property as my mom. I’m never around my mom. CPS said I’m not allowed to live with my mom again so I’m in a separate house on the property
Can grandma help you here?
Not with the pony she’s in a wheelchair and has no experience with horses
I apologize for not being clear - I mean in advocating for your safety.
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Ohhh even when my grandma tries my mom will not listen. It is almost impossible to get anything into my mom’s head. She thinks that I can handle myself around the pony when it’s clear that I can’t and I’m going to get hurt. My grandma has tried to help before but my mom didn’t care
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With that context I would leave the horses alone from now on. There’s a reason CPS removed you from your mom’s home, and it seems like the horses are just another way for her to try to keep you under her control. Call BLM about the mare and let them find her a better situation. Tell your grandma about all of this so she can be prepared in case your mother tries to retaliate, and then keep as much distance from your mother as you possibly can. I’m so sorry you’re in this situation.
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Okay I will
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I agree with @dmveventer. As hard as it is, especially at your age, this is not worth getting hurt over.
Can you give us a VERY general area you are in? Maybe someone nearby can take you under their wing to keep you around horses, but safe ones. Horses can be a great influence on you - they just have to be the right ones.
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OP up thread said said she lives in Plymouth IN
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Op…I did not realize you were 14. I also support just leaving the horses alone and not engaging. A mare will behave just like a stallion when challenged and you don’t have the experience to deal with this. The horses will manage with hay and water. Use you grandma to help you and perhaps some of the folks here on COTH that are from IN can help.
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Agree completely!
OP forget what I said about confronting this horse. You’re too young and inexperienced to step up to her. Take care and good luck.
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Thank you, I missed that.
OP I’m bummed because you’re just out of my range. I hope you’re able to continue with horses in a safe way because I think they can be very beneficial for you.
Your current situation is not it. Hay thrown over the fence and water. That’s it. This mare absolutely will hurt you.
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Okay thank you for helping
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OP, I agree with everyone here. Call the BLM and explain this situation. The kindest thing you can do for this mare’s long-term future as a horse is to get her off your property.
You have too much going on to worry about training her or even finding a trainer who can. If your mom is mad, take refuge with your grandmother. If the mare remains she will hurt you, and then her future is far more likely to be dark. Your mom is using this horse as a weapon against you, either to win your favor or to hurt you, I’m not sure.
Praying you find a teacher or a guidance counselor to provide you with some stability in this situation, even if only to offer an in-real-life shoulder to cry on.
You are very mature to know you are over your head and to seek advice!
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Don’t let this situation with the mustang discourage you. Once it’s sorted out, I hope you have access to a safer, more practical horse so that you can keep up with your riding.
Best of luck, OP 
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Isn’t this horse legally the mom’s?
OP I highly encourage you to get your older horse out of that pen as safely as possible and leave this mustang of your mom’s (as I see it) totally alone.
I’m not remotely suggesting that you DO the things in this video but Ryan Rose on youtube has a video up of a feral paint mare that is aggressive. Don’t do the things he says but maybe watch it and listen to what he says about safetly with a “wild” horse. They can and do have “fight” in their toolbox; they aren’t all scared waifs. Especially a mare might choose violence instead of gentling down. Again I say, do not do the things, don’t waste another minute of your life with this horse that your mom owns (IMO). But the video and what he says will reiterate that you’re basically dealing with a worst case scenario that wants to hurt you.
Walk away from this whole situation in the most complete manner you can and don’t be in the pen with this horse ever again. Your mom made this mess, it’s hers to deal with. Spend some time looking for good local lessons, groups and enjoy your older horse as you keep learning.
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When Your Horse Is “Out of His Box”
Talks about horses at feed time, but absolutely works for horses invading your space in the pasture.
Edit to add: this is now for interest of future readers with horse issues. OP’s issues go way beyond this horse. Forget the horse.
Ho damn. This goes waaaaaay beyond an aggressive pony.
And your mum is a nurse?!
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Based on the additional information, go talk to your grandmother. Go talk to your guidance counselor. Find an adult that can help advocate for your best interest.
As hard as it can be and as much as you want to include your mom in your life, sometimes you have to step away and look out for yourself when your parent isn’t stepping up to do that.
I feel for you as you are the same age as my youngest son. I couldn’t imagine putting him in the situation you are in.
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OP you’ve gotten plenty of advice so I’m not adding anything to that. I just wanted to say nice again I’m so sorry you’re in this position. It should never be the job of a child to raise their parent. At 14 you are old enough to be accountable for your decisions but also very much should be able to lean on the security and guidance of trusted adults. Since you do not have this resource in the home, I hope you can find this through your school, a club, church group, etc. Even if they do not have any horse knowledge, it’s nice to have a reasonable adult on your side (with the caveat that please make it a woman, red flag men can have a radar for vulnerable teens). I hope you can find a way to safely enjoy horses and that you can find a way to navigate this really difficult situation. None of this is your fault and it really sounds like you are doing your best to navigate the position you have been put in. Chronicle forum can sometimes feel like a lot of information overload but it’s because even though we are strangers we really care that anyone, much less a teen, is in an unsafe situation. Thank you for being so receptive to feedback and I hope you were able to have a good Thanksgiving despite all of this.
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