Well, a few of us have asked for examples of what they consider mean. Now we know.
Ok then, fair enough.
You did nail it with this, though.
I would call it juvenile.
sigh. Good Lord Ya’ll.
Excuse me? It’s my turn to apologize? For what, pray tell. I asked @CurrentlyHorseless to find the post and they did. Thank you, CurrentlyHorseless. I absolutely contest that I have been very rude to CH. Suggesting someone back up assertions with proof is not rude.
I agree that it wasn’t the kindest of posts. I haven’t always been in the majority opinion here, and have at times been on the receiving end of some less than friendly comments. If I am upset, I usually take a break. Sometimes I let it get the best of me, but I try not to.
The post in question, from 10 months ago now, was not something I recalled specifically 8 months later when CH alluded to it. Regardless, after CH brought it up, @FitzE subsequently apologized for anything they may have said and I accepted that apology - even though at the time neither of us recalled the post. It is water under the bridge as far as I am concerned.
Looking back at my posting history, after that exchange, I took a break from posting and didn’t apparently hold a grudge (I am not a grudge holder in general), because I replied to a post from them 3 months later. Sometimes it’s best to walk away when things get heated.
As an aside, another poster here was not kind to me in my opinion. Guess what I did? I messaged them and we worked it out, now we are quite chummy!
The assertion still stands: if you want to call out behavior then be specific and post receipts.
Is the QFPer-in-chief part of the thread police, or is that considered a different department?
How about quoting the post or a screenshot for accuracy? Sorry if we do not take your word for it!
She has not provided a single receipt. She has provided her interpretation of a post- nothing more, nothing less. Quote or screenshot as neither you or she has proven to be reliable when quoting or interpreting other’s posts!
Quoting the posts in question? Oh no. That would be a bit of an own goal, what with all the wanking about QFPing
Erinmeri, no apology is necessary. I should have looked it up the first time you asked, and finding it was very simple with a search.
It made me cringe because when I looked at your preceding posts they were extremely mild, polite, and respectful. In fact, you were apologizing and trying to back away from conflict, and then FitzE unloaded with that. Months later when, as a new poster I made what I considered a mild comment, FitzE came at me with a similar barrage which reminded me of her post to you. I hadn’t remembered the line about you as a poster not being “worth her labor” to engage with you, but she’s said roughly the same to me.
Just a guess but I would consider them the record-keeping department as they aren’t trying to tell anyone how and what they can post, just preserving prior posts for posterity.
Thank you.
Here’s the thing I will say. I am now quite chummy with that person, who apologized with no prompt from me after your first post. Sometimes things get heated on here. It happens to the best of us. People don’t always agree - whether it’s about MB/LK or horsemanship or whether it is acceptable to wear your hair down in the Hunter ring. I don’t always agree, even on these threads…
I have learned that sometimes, you agree to disagree. Sometimes you walk away. When a thread pi**es me off? Or makes me feel anxious? I stop following it. Give it a breather. And when people upset me greatly, I try to address it calmly offline in a PM. Usually works!
Long story short: this forum isn’t worth getting upset over. Sometimes it’s best to let it go.
YMMV
Erinmeri requested a post number, which I provided. She has thanked me for providing the reference.
I encourage you to read the post for yourself, and also see the context in terms of the posts of Erinmeri that FitzE was replying to.
If you want to find it using the search function, search for “mocking” posted by FitzE. It’s in the “Court date for Barisone” thread of Aug 2021.
I agree that it’s often useful or necessary to just log off and let your mind reset in these situations.
On the PMing thing, though, I think it’s risky to PM anyone who is not known to be a “friendly”. It might work, but it might backfire.
Why do you keep “supposing”?
Sure - but that’s life. If you are calm and respectful and well-intentioned, it usually works out. Conflict resolution is part of adulting. It ain’t always fun,… but it’s a life skill. And if that isn’t your jam, then just log off and let it go.
