There’s a lot of error being made(here and practically everywhere) with this notion of “what people think of.” Along with the conjecture that anyone would know how someone else should act, react, how much they should bleed, what they should be capable of after they’ve been shot etc.
a huge portion of the causality of these events is persons A & B thinking they can predict, control or judge how the opposite person behaves or what their reasons are. A reasonable person wouldn’t do or think this, a reasonable person shouldn’t do that, I should have this, they shouldn’t have that.
That’s part of the foundation of this whole situation. Judgments/beliefs of how everyone else should think or feel, how they should act/react, how they should describe, what’s reasonable, accurate, owed, etc. perpetuating that belief and behavior system on COTH is dubious at best. And very likely contributes to repeating scenarios.
Otherwise the situation would never of happened in the first place.