And isn’t it sad what one has to do to get those types of folks out of your life?
In my case, I had to pay a fine to USEF because the narcissist that went after me lied to them about what I said to her at a horse show. And since I was up against a major hard deadline at work and not able to take time off to go to Lexington for the hearing so I could defend myself (I even had witnesses), the hearing committee got hoodwinked by her (she was all sweet and respectful with them at the hearing and they fell for it). So I got clobbered with a $1000 fine and threatened by a local horse show organizer to have me removed by the police from a show unless I paid the fine. I was not in a position in my life to expend any more bandwidth fighting it, so I paid the danged fine just to be done with it. Best $1000 I ever spent but I have had a very bitter taste in my mouth about USEF ever since. “Old ladies in skirts” is how one of my previous trainers derisively described TPTB at USEF - and I think I agree with her in many respects.