I did not respond to Sdelâs post at the time, but wish to now.
When I started participating in the threads, I had been lurking for some time, and had noticed the styles of various posters, including FitzE. I do remember an exchange in which, as a lurker, I was shocked at the way FitzE went after another poster. I think it was ErinMeri, but apparently ErinMeri was not bothered.
In December, I was shocked at the viciousness with which FitzE attacked me, seemingly out of the blue. Lots of posts were deleted by the mods from that thread, so her most vicious posts directed at me may no longer be there. She also attacked Equkelly, who ended up being banned by the end of the exchange.
Any poster who occupies the niche âI object to incessant LK bashingâ, and posts in a high volume, is âspeculatedâ to be YD. Hut-Ho, Equkelly, and even CanteringCarrot (!) have been speculated to be YD, so Iâve anticipated being speculating about all along.
Based on what Sdel posted, I now realize that YD and FitzE had âhistoryâ, and that, while she didnât openly say âyouâre YDâ at the time, that FitzEs âlevel of emotionâ was explained by the likelihood that she thought she was continuing her feud with YD. Being blasted with full strength âhatred of YDâ was not pleasant.
At this point, I have my own intense mutual animosity with FitzE. She posted as evidence of my âdishonestyâ
that when asked for a reference to a post, I provided a post number but not a link. (?!). Thatâs dishonest? To be charitable, perhaps her definition of âdishonestyâ is different from mine.
At this point, I think there has been speculation that Iâm YD, who is apparently LKs sister, so maybe Iâm speculated to be LKs sister; someone not a blood relative of LK but working for her legal team; and perhaps an alter for IM. (Why would IM be writing under an alter as well as under IM???)
I figure that I can either
Ignore all this speculation, or
Keep saying, Iâm not A, B, C, etc
Being defensive just has the effect of validating the speculation, however wild, so I will go back to ignoring it.
I am no longer âafraidâ of FitzE, but do not wish to spend effort to counter her insults. Iâll let the insults just lie there in all their glory, or flag them for the moderator. She is in a huge majority of highly partisan posters and will get lots of âlikesâ for her insults and mockery. I know my only choice it to put up with it or leave.
This was probably the best post youâve ever written. I donât happen to agree with it one bit but at least it sets forth a thought out explanation of opinion.
I find the posters youâre speaking of delightful and think highly of them. Iâm sure that comes as no shock to you.
I do notice that your post ends with a tone of victimization on your part - that youâre powerless to fight the masses giving you no choice but to either fall onto your sword or retreat to other places.
Effective use of just enough drama there.
I know itâs tough when the tide turns against you or your cause. But it has for a reason. The posters you cite got it right. You did not and I know thatâs uncomfortable.
I am just glad to hear that SS and/or USEF are taking the whole âfinish the bastardâ theory to life seriously. Hopefully this will keep some other trainer from having their life intentionally ruined by this person who per their mother was simply upset about not being the center of attention.
I would assume that, if anyone was so inclined to send Lauren letters of support, they could be addressed to Seeker1âs address and she would happily forward them on to Lauren.
I understand perfectly that youâre going to like and respect the posters you agree withâ Eggbutt, FitzE, etc. But delightful? When FitzE insults, mocks, and makes pronouncements of dishonesty on ridiculous pretexts, such as my saying, honestly, that I would not go back and provide a link to a post? You find that âdelightfulâ?
I respect FitzEs intelligence and cleverness. I think that if we had met at a horse show IRL and not on SM, I might well have liked her personally. I think SM can bring out the worst in people.
Re bolded. I was not trying to be subtle. I noticed, personally, that when FitzE posts that sheâs declaring that Iâm dishonest, manipulative, I donât even remember what else, that it will only make things worse if I attempt to respond and say, no Iâm not dishonest, ⊠I know that I am indeed powerless to actually refute her smear that I am a liar.
That is the basis for much of my sympathy for LK. She did not âCall CPS to falsely report MB for child sexual abuseâ, but even before she was banned, she was powerless to actually refute the lie told about her.
FitzEs smears directed at me are directed to a mere screen name, and are trite, run of the mill SM taunts. It must be much, much worse to have a serious false allegation viciously repeated about your IRL identity, as has been the case on these threads.