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From the business perspective, the potential BO may have a long-established relationship with the present BO that is far more important to her to maintain than preserving confidentiality for someone she doesn’t know who is sneaking around sniffing out future boarding situations behind her present BO’s back. And given she did not preserve your secret it is a good bet she would not have accepted you as a boarder until everyting with her friend was out in the open, as well. She may just not feel like dealing with the repercussions that come with appearing that she has in some way aided and abetted in stealing a boarder over to her farm. She should have just remained silent and allowed your email to go off into cyberspace, but since she didn’t you have all revealed yourselves to each other and now the damage repair begins.
Next time, if you’re not trying to outrun a crazy person, play it above board with your BO. She may even help you out by recommending a good place to move to that fits better with your new job, etc. Mine does.[/QUOTE]
I’m kind of amazed at the number of posts on here from people who apparently don’t understand what confidentiality is all about or why it may be important to a person or a business. Read some job postings out there - one of the #1 items is being able to maintain confidentiality. So why should it be any different with a person visiting a Barn?
I’ve worked on several huge real estate deals involving the relocation of corporate HQ. One being so confidential that only 2 people in my office knew of the transaction - me being one of the 2. WHY? because the corporate muckety-mucks didn’t want it to get out there that they may be relocating across the country… it can be quite damaging in terms of employee morale and retention until the decision is made. When it came time to introduce other people into the transaction - they all had to sign a confidentiality agreement. If anyone blabbed-they’d could’ve been fired or quite possibly company being sued for breach. Now this is an extreme situation.
But why should it be any different in the horse world? The OP asked that her visit to the barn be held in confidence - it does not matter their reasons, it does not matter the BO’s relationship with any other BO in the county or state. the BO agreed to keep mum but instead she blabbed.
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What kind of angst do you think your BO will suffer if you did suddenly move? Don’t you think that would cause more worry and confusion? Wouldn’t it be better that she had a heads up and time to prepare for your move and time to find a potential new boarder?
If this is about trust, you should have trusted your friend/BO before trusting a stranger that doesn’t know you or your intentions.
Take a deep breath and look at this from both BO’s stand point rather than your own.[/QUOTE]
Isn’t that why one typically gives a 30 day notice? So that the BO won’t “suffer” and has time to prepare?
And now it seems that the OP’s BO didn’t bother to share with the OP, who’ remember is a good friend of the BOs, that they might be selling the place so the boarders won’t suffer and will have time to prepare. Wonder why - oh maybe because BO didn’t want anyone to leave until the deal was done right?
It was wrong of the BO to blab about it period.