sad, very sad… but not surprising to me either.
I am very sorry for chantershelper and other who have gone out of their way to help. We are blamed when we are skeptic, but… this attitude from the “helpee” is not going to make us jump up and down to want to help the next person.
I too hope the horse is feeling better and drinking!
Not a happy ending, I’m afraid
I’m walking a fine line here, so please bear with me…
This situation is not going to work out unfortunately. I am deeply saddened, hurt and disappointed. I had high hopes that it would be a win-win situation for both Chanter and I. Me, some assistance with my horses, freeing me up to have more of “a life” 
:lol: As if that really happens with horses! And for Chanter, a safe, low-stress and decent (though far from perfect) place to live for her, her dogs and her horses.
A number of people have figured out who I am and that’s fine. I created the alter because I saw someone in need and thought I was in a position to offer her at least a temporary solution as my husband and I have been through some tough financial times the last few years and now feel blessed by those who helped us and wanted to “pay if forward”. My husband and I told her from the very beginning if she wasn’t happy here then we didn’t want to feel any obligation to stay. We hoped it would work, but if not, at least it was a safe place. I have a horse business (duh, one would hope so, having 20+ of the darlings! 
) and didn’t want the focus on me or my business, but on helping her.
After some very stressful events yesterday on all sides, my husband and I have realized that we are not qualified nor equipped to have Chanter here and help her with her special needs. At this point I’m not sure exactly what will happen, but do ask for your continued thoughts, prayers and jingles that this can be resolved peaceably and the “right” situation found where perhaps Chanter will be happy.
I may choose to “out” myself on the board later, but am trying to not make or do anything rash at this point.
I know some of you are at least thinking “I told you so”. I will say that I spent well over 100 hours talking to Chanter and the others helping out over a two week period of time and felt comfortable enough to open our doors to her. Hindsight is always 20-20, but quite frankly, given the same circumstances, I would do the same thing
As for arab, I have not spoken to Chanter since yesterday morning, but he appears to be okay at least…pooping, eating, though I can’t say how much he’s drinking.
Continued thoughts, prayers and jingles for a happy resolution would be appreciated (by both of us, I’m sure)
Raise your hand if you were surprised by this latest installment by Chanter.
I see very few hands up in the air.
[QUOTE=jetsmom;2166862]
Just because someone has a disability, doesn’t mean that they are automatically a “nice” person. People with disabilities can be whiny, controlling, manipulative people, who just happen to have a disability. I get the impression that Chanter wants everyone to just hand everything to her, and play the part of “victim”. QUOTE]
Jetsmom, I know this all too well from experience. 
It is hard to be “tough” or straightforward with people that disability or not cannot handle the truth…and sadly if someone knows that, they will use it to their advantage and take advantage of all around them…it is very sad, really.
I had no idea there were service dogs as well? That is interesting that they are not altered because of the heredity possibility of their incredible ability. I honestly have limited but some exposure to the servive dogs, mainly seeing eye dogs, and had no idea that this was a concern.
I hope the horses are fine and that everyone is fine and settles in. I hate to still doubt a lot , but if in fact this is all true…then I wish the best for those involved…
Exactly, jetsmom.
Maybe the big dog really is a seizure dog, but I have my doubts about a tiny Shi Tzu being able to do very much.
Isn’t the other one a Pit mix? That’s certainly a large enough dog.
And I must have missed that post. Did Chanter answer it, or someone else? It was my impression that the seizure dog thing was a theory posited forth by someone other than Chanter, and was neither confirmed nor denied.
I’m sorry, but the whole thing stank of 3 day old fish to me right from the beginning.
I do hope the Arab is recovering, and from what chantershelper posted, it seems it’s going that way.
Chantershelper, I hope you don’t stop offering to help whenever you can. What you have done is incredible and although “people never cease to disappoint,” your actions came from a pure heart. I applaud you. I wish Chanter and her beasties well of course but I wish you that and more.
chantershelper, I really feel badly for the position you are in and can’t even think about how to help rectify it. I hope you find some peace soon.
CH–you have a kind heart, and thank you for being willing to Pay it Forward. what you did was above and beyond to help someone who now it appears is less that what she represented.
I am sorry for you for that. I was the told you so person (or at least the only one who had the balls to say it)—and no, without a crystal ball, you wouldn’t have known. Me–the cynic, has seen too many of these things go bad, so I guess it’s a good thing for those people like Chanter that there are people like you who are kind at trusting. You should be applauded.
Chanter on the other hand…
Chantershelper, I don’t know who you are but you must be a wonderful, caring person in real life to have opened your doors to someone in need. I only hope if I ever fell into such a position I would find someone like you to help me. I hope everything works out well for you in getting the current situation resolved.
Chanter’shelper, you’ve been a real saint to do all you have done. I don’t know you, but I have nothing but respect for you.
Helper…I’m happy to hear you’ve kept your helpful spirit intact. :yes:
My best wishes to you that you and your family can rectify the siutation quickly and painlessly so you can then work towards settling into your new place! Best of luck!
[QUOTE=moonriverfarm;2164572]
Chanter, you are coming across as ungrateful and terribly hard to please.
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Yup and I read all her posts on everything. For all that is/was/and will be she just has one complaint after another.
Try living on the streets by yourself with no one to help … talk about having to step up by youself. Please Chanter be greatful because the next person just may not help you. I think your horse just has “trailer tie up”.
Wait…what is this rumor that someone here on the BB…sent a friend over to intimidate Chanters former employer/barn manager? That really hands down shows how crazy BB’s are at times. You have no idea of the validity of something and no knowledge but actually commit crimes based on what someone says on the internet?? Holy Crap!!
[QUOTE=Coreene;2166935]
Raise your hand if you were surprised by this latest installment by Chanter.
I see very few hands up in the air.[/QUOTE]
I posted my above post before I read up on the latest actions. No, I certainly was not surprised. I felt like chanter had some real underlyings from reading all her posts. I wish her well but heck . . . People take kindness for weakness unfortunately.
ChantersHelper. You are the BEST!!!
[QUOTE=Moesha;2167073]
Wait…what is this rumor that someone here on the BB…sent a friend over to intimidate Chanters former employer/barn manager? That really hands down shows how crazy BB’s are at times. You have no idea of teh validity of something and no knowledge but actually commit crimes based on what someone says on the internet?? Holy Crap!![/QUOTE]
Not a rumour - it was out and out mentioned on the other thread. :no:
[QUOTE=vanjumper;2167079]
Not a rumour - it was out and out mentioned on the other thread. :no:[/QUOTE]
Good God.
not a rumour and actually not surprising there either!
Just…so sorry. Was hoping that this thread would never have come to pass.
chanter’shelper, I don’t know who you are. But like Quinn, I applaud your actions.
I wish it had not turned out this way.
I appreciate the kinds words folks.
But let me be clear…I am not a saint. I have MORE than my share of FAULTS, I assure you!! I have been known to be downright b*tchy! :yes:
However, our hearts were in the right place and honestly, for a few days, I really enjoyed Chanter being here. It appears however, that she has been keeping a list of all my trangressions (real and perceived) since she sit foot on our place (once again, in the middle of the worst ice storm here in over 20 yrs.). I am not faultless in the current situation…I did lose my temper at one point with her yesterday and I always think things could have been handled or said better or differently when things go south.
So, no St. Chantershelper! 
chantershelper - I hope the situation does not turn too ugly for you and your husband. Doubt if there is anything I can do to help you, but if you think of anything, let me know! None of us will believe a word of any bad-mouthing that Chanter chooses to do on this BB. Your heart was in the right place but people have to want to help themselves also.
That is, your (the generic term, not directed at anyone in particular) help will really only be useful if the person also has a desire to help themselves. Otherwise the person being helped only brings everyone else down with them.
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