Dehydration/minor colic JINGLES needed

[MistyBlue]

Moesha, Page 16 of the first long thread on this, post #319:

While I have not tried to interfere directly with CHANTER, ( I will help out where I can), I did have someone go see the BM. He will not be physically accosting her again. He received the mano e mano speech from a big nasty canuck buddy of mine

While I understand wanting to try to save someone we assume is getting scared on purpose by someone else…from both past over-the-top sounding posts and current ones…I’d guess there is very little chance the BM was a big mean bully hurting anyone. Seems that someone just gets annoyed and dramatic whenever they have to do something resembling work…and this BM may have asked this person to help out or something.
Completely guessing…but following all past and present situations…if I hear hoofbeats I’m guessing it’s a horse and not a unicorn. :yes:

We’re hearing the truth now would be my guess…seems someone did a major dramatic show online and manipulated many people into helping her out, finding her new digs, giving tons of attention and adoration, etc.

[LD1129]

Chanters helper I am glad that there are people like you still out there!! I think that what you did was amazing and I applaud your actions. I wish you, your family, and your animals the best of luck settling into your new farm!!!

[Moesha]

[QUOTE=FalseImpression;2167108]
not a rumour and actually not surprising there either![/QUOTE]

Not Surprising? Wow that is scary in what it alludes to.

I’m not going to be surprised to see this on Court TV within the year!!

"The dark side of the online Equestrian community…Assualt, witness imtimidation, fraud, theft,forgery, polluted water, misrepresentation, kidnapping across state lines, animal abuse, law suits, and service dogs gone bad…all on the next episode of Judge Judy.’

[vanjumper]

[QUOTE=chantershelper;2167121]
It appears however, that she has been keeping a list of all my trangressions (real and perceived) since she sit foot on our place (once again, in the middle of the worst ice storm here in over 20 yrs.). [/QUOTE]

:no: You’ve got to be kidding me. Absolutely ridiculous. Good luck chantershelper.

[inca]

[QUOTE=chantershelper;2167121]
I am not faultless in the current situation…I did lose my temper at one point with her yesterday [/QUOTE]

Believe us when we say we are SURE you had good reason to lose your temper! My goodness gracious, I think many of us lost our temper just reading her posts on this BB. I can’t imagine this being a very real part of your life!

And just surviving the ice storm (which was not NEARLY as bad down here but still bad enough) was trying enough, without the added burden of all of this! Not to mention moving right before or during the ice storm!

Will say a prayer for you, your husband AND Chanter. I hope a peaceful and agreeable solution can be reached.

[Policy_of_Truth]

[QUOTE=chantershelper;2167121]
I appreciate the kinds words folks.

But let me be clear…I am not a saint. I have MORE than my share of FAULTS, I assure you!! I have been known to be downright b*tchy! :yes:

However, our hearts were in the right place and honestly, for a few days, I really enjoyed Chanter being here. It appears however, that she has been keeping a list of all my trangressions (real and perceived) since she sit foot on our place (once again, in the middle of the worst ice storm here in over 20 yrs.). I am not faultless in the current situation…I did lose my temper at one point with her yesterday and I always think things could have been handled or said better or differently when things go south.

So, no St. Chantershelper! [/QUOTE]

Considering all you’ve done to assist a perfect stranger durring your OWN life changes, I’d say your “outburst” was well within reason;)

I don’t have a clue who you are either, but I’d say you’re the type of person one would want on their side…I hope once this chaos is over, you can get settled into the new place and RELAX!! Who knows, maybe you’ll get a heat wave next week:winkgrin:

[Policy_of_Truth]

[QUOTE=Moesha;2167145]
Not Surprising? Wow that is scary in what it alludes to.

I’m not going to be surprised to see this on Court TV within the year!!

"The dark side of the online Equestrian community…Assualt, witness imtimidation, fraud, theft,forgery, polluted water, misrepresentation, kidnapping across state lines, animal abuse, law suits, and service dogs gone bad…all on the next episode of Judge Judy.’[/QUOTE]

ROFLMAO:lol:

[chantershelper]

Moesha -

You nearly gave a heart attack…having all this ending up on CourtTV.

…then I read your leadin and LMAO! :lol: :lol: Thanks for the giggle! Just don’t tell me that you were serious…allow me my own delusion that this will somehow resolve peaceably. Perhaps I should change my handle to Pollyanna?

[Roisin]

Well…I, for one, think we should send someone to TX and rough up chantershelper! She admitted herself that she can be downright B*tchy, and we simply can’t have that on this BB!!

In all seriousness…I’m terribly sorry this hasn’t worked out for you. You may not want sainthood, but you have certainly earned points with the higher power of your choosing! Hang in there! Fingers and toes crossed that everyone moves on to a better situation.

[Rodeio]

[QUOTE=Moesha;2167105]
Good God. :([/QUOTE]

Moesha,

Look for post number 319 on page 16 of the DESPERATE TO MOVE thread further down on Off Course. There is a followup post on page 17 number 332.

[BLBGP]

So do we think the situation was even that bad in Florida? I am starting to feel bad for the barn manager who had the thug sicked on him…who sent the thug?

[BeastieSlave]

:sigh: I can’t say I’m surprised either. I decided early on to just watch from the sidelines on this one… I wanted a happy ending for all - but I sure didn’t expect one :no:

chantershelper, bless your heart and good luck.

[DocNDabby]

As usual, I’m late to the party, but have finally read all the posts and caught up to what’s been going on.

Wow. ChantersHelper, I certainly hope you and your DH are NOT feeling like this was wasted caring and help that you offered! Your kind souls and strong spirit did what you felt best and it shows the kind of warm, wonderful people you are. DON’T CHANGE!

The fault is not yours, but Chanter’s. When one is given help and aid and tosses it away and does nothing but complain, then it’s the whiner’s fault. Chanter was given a GOLDEN opportunity to actually make something of her life and did not choose to do it. Her choice, brain injury or not.

If her brain injury is really so bad that she cannot safely or happily live out in the general world, I second the idea that she should seek more supportive help from those organizations that are meant to do just that. If her dogs ARE service dogs (or any one of them is) then she is ALREADY connected to some kind of support organization…she should re-contact them and get referred to more help and support.

I totally get that it’s a byzantine path sometimes in getting such help for a disability. I myself have a serious disability and it took me a year of concentrated work to get the help I needed, but I did it. I can tell you was not easy! And, when I asked for help (and I did) from others (personal friends and professionals) to get this support and help, I did NOT whine and complain or toss away the opportunities. I just hung in there and kept trying.

Chanter: it would seem to me that if ChatersHelper has 20 horses and runs a horse business that SHE would have had MANY ideas of how to get your arab horse re-hydrated. Why didn’t you simply talk to HER and keep working at it rather than wasting your time on the BB? I completely understand your being nervous about your horse’s health after so much travel…but you could have just come on here briefly and said, “gee, I’m having some hydration problems due to travel with my arab…anyone have suggestions on how to help with this?”…but you spent most of your OP whining about how awful the place was and well water was undrinkable for humans…wellllll, duh, for HUMANS maybe, but this is a HORSE. Besides, ChantersHelper’s TWENTY horses were drinking it just fine, right?

ChantersHelper, you did the right thing in offering to help another person who seemed down and out and disabled. You are one of God’s angels on Earth. Never worry when faith and love and support and kindness seem to be unworthy or not returned as they should by someone. You and your DH HAVE paid it forward, and in due time, YOU guys will be blessed for your kindnesses.

Chanter: do think upon what everyone here has said. If you sincerely are disabled and are finding it very hard to live in the world on your own and make your own way (which is a possible legitimate concern) then you need to get more help of the right kind to make that more possible for you. It may entail work, sacrifice and effort…believe ME, serious disability does NOT prevent you from having to face work, sacrifice and effort in life. It’s NOT a “ticket out of the work”…often, it makes the work of living HARDER, not easier. You cannot “hide” behind it, but must work through it as best you can…AND, when given help or a hand up, DON’T BITE IT. Embrace it, thank the people who help you and do the very best you can, and then you will find that your life will begin to work out for you.

Just my .01cent (don’t have 2!)

[rainechyldes]

Unfortunately there are some people, all injuries aside, who simply believe 100% that the entire world owes them. I happened to have one such friend for awhile-it got very wearying, and I ended the relationship for my own self preservation.
I’m sorry it turned out this way-what a waste. hugs for Chantershelper

[zbarxfarm]

I am just shocked, and saddened.
I feel bad becuase the help that Chantershelper gave could have been used by someone who really appreciated it. It saddens me to think that C.H may not help any one again becuase of being burned. This is the kind of stuff my husband warns me of. When I heard Chanter was having problems with her computer I thought to myself, wow I have a laptop that is no longer being used, maybe I will send it to her, when i asked my husband if he would mind if I did that he said Dont even think about it! Seeing all this happen has made me think that no matter how hard you try to be good, people are selfish and never really appreciate the little things you do, therefor people have stopped giving. Its sad.

Im sorry for you CH and I’m sorry for you too Chanter

[TripleRipple]

There are boatloads of people who really truly need help, and of that group, some can actually benefit from an assist at the right time. That is awesome when the person truly in need meets with the ones who can give.

But a person isn’t necessarily “in desperate need” or deserving of receiving help just because they say they are. Or because as a good person, you like to rescue people and you personally want them to be what they say they are, and so you ignore the warning signs. Everytime help goes where it wasn’t needed or useful, it means someone else who is for real loses out.

Good lesson here.

[mazu]

I’m so sorry, chantershelper. I was hoping things would work out and my gut feeling would be wrong.

I, too, have to question the wisdom of silencing the “doubters” in the previous thread. I don’t think an atmosphere of “Chanter is right, no matter what” is conducive to making good decisions about what to do. I hope we keep this thread in mind the next time we’re scheduled for a nutjob to show and make his/her plea for help.

[moonriverfarm]

DocNDabby said it all. And yes this did reek from the git-go. It makes me very sad for chantershelper - dear, you ARE an angel, and you DID pay it forward. Consider that deed done. It WILL come back to you, seven-fold.
GAD, the headache you must be going thru trying to move her on.

[MistyBlue]

Agreed Mazu.
With all due respect, I think if the polite questioning had gone on a tad longer, there may have been a chance to find out more and find out exactly what was going on before so many people spent tons of time and money and networking to help someone who obviously has a skewed version of truth.
Now a BM has been “talked to” for what may very well be no good reason other than asking the OP to do her own job and a kind hearted person moving her large herd into a new home in the middle of an ice storm wouldn’t have been saddled with what sounds like a wallking law suit hoping for an easy pay off.
I can see stopping rude and attacking posts, but politely cynical ones may have eventually ferreted out more of the actual situation before it was too late.
JMHO.

[jetsmom]

Chanter didn’t used to live on a leaky houseboat in FL, did she???