I use Pinterest for inspiration (interior design, clothes, hair, nails, crafts, horse stuff, etc), remembering things I may want to look back on and try or do or purchase later (recipes, DIY, tutorials, products, etc), and - on private boards - business ideas. To create a Pinterest board about a traumatic incident you went through is⊠odd.
That portrait was taken by a NY Times photographer, at one of her attorneyâs offices, near the parking lot. Hereâs another one from the same shoot.
Imagine the highlight of your life is a tragic incident.
My police officer husband was shot 3 times by a mad man years ago. It was such a wild story several books were published and 3 made for TV movies were produced about the entire tragedy. While we were deluged with media for several weeks and annually for the anniversary of the event for many years, we didnât dwell on it, did not seek attention, and moved on with our lives. In other words the event did not define our lives. Yes, every one handles traumatic situations differently, but LK isnât even attempting to heal since the verdict it seems. Itâs as though she is stuck in time and refuses to move on. What a shame she doesnât have anything important in her life to focus on to get on with her life - her riding, children, family, a profession, whatever.
I actually kind of feel bad for her in that way. Why is she clinging to this so strongly? Especially in such a public way online (not just COTH pre-ban, but now YouTube, replying to months old posts)?
My life ainât all that interesting. I am single, no kids, middling success. And I have had a lot of trauma throughout my life. But while I donât have kids/family/outrageous success to focus on, I dang sure donât typically focus all my energy - at least not publicly - on things that really sucked for me.
I tend to focus on the things that make me happy now, and on things that I think might make me happy in the future. (Triggering things aside⊠and I usually recognize I am being triggered and avoid!)
@erinmeri, you have been wise enough to figure things out. I know you have talked here about seeking out therapy when you felt you needed help. You have learned to appreciate your life and enjoy it.
I would also bet you appreciate what you do have and are grateful for it.
One of the wonderful things I have found with aging is I am grateful for what I do have, and my version of being âwealthyâ is much different than what others versions might be. I also donât care what others think of me. Being my authentic self means more than material possessions or accolades from other. Flying under the radar, even with acts of kindness, is preferable!
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