[QUOTE=LilyandBaron;8727938]
Not sure where the words “grossly unhealthy” were lost on so many? Healthy/unhealthy are not my standards - no one who is super obese is healthy, nor is someone who is whatever is the medical term for the opposite (anorexic is the behavior, I assume, so not sure of the term) And if someone is grossly unhealthy and is okay with it, so be it, but if they act as though they have no control over their health AND bring up the topic to me, then yeah, I will not support their way of thinking. And again, healthy comes in a wide variety of shapes/sizes. I will caveat with the hopefully obvious - there are some legitimate disabilities that prevent some individuals from being “fit” but the people that I argue with are those who make poor choices but act as though their health is just visited upon them, AND then try to convince me of that point.
What I willfully think is shameful are people who COULD be healthier making excuses and acting as though those of us who try to be healthy (not a certain size, but HEALTHY) don’t have to make conscious decisions to achieve good health.[/QUOTE]
Why the heck is the state of ANYONE else’s “health,” something you think you’re entitled to judge them on? First of all, “health” is not a state that can readily be seen from outside–if that was the case, why are we paying all those doctors? AND, it’s about the most PRIVATE matter I can think of. It really isn’t anyone else’s business. Unfortunately, today we have a billions-dollar industry wrongfully trying to convince us that a larger body size=unhealthy. WRONG. By the actual numbers, the “healthiest” BMI, that with the LOWEST morbidity and mortality, for active people is between 25 and 33! Feel free to go look that up; the bibliography is extensive.
Age and “health” most often have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with each other. These days, “health” is being used as justification for shaming ordinary, healthy people into the invidious belief that there is some biological reason they are not an arbitrary “right” size–which the culture since 1920 has progressively ratcheted down, currently to actual emaciation. There are complex sociological issues in play behind that phenomenon that are beyond the scope of this thread. At the moment, thinness is being taken as a pseudo upper-class marker, and extreme exercise as virtue signaling. Full stop.
There IS no “right” size. There is the genetic and age-related size you ARE, and there are as many of those as there are people. Furthermore, most of us WILL age into larger sizes between age 40 and 55 inevitably. There is no legitimate medical justification for anyone starving, purging, etc. to change your body type as long as you can move around and do what you want.
I’m pretty happy I weigh what I do; if I didn’t, I’d be seriously lacking in the necessary ballast to throw behind that bogged-down wheelbarrow 
I’m also a fine, buxom size 16 these days, and just got back from a 2-hour trail ride on my fourteen-three’er who was trying to take off the whole darn time!
Just live as active a life as you feel like doing; very few of us will die from “lack of exercise” just because we don’t run marathon or do CrossFit. Walking with dogs, barn work, gardening, even grooming and tacking up all contributes to an “active” life. As others have mentioned, there are also a great many medicines, disabilities, injuries, etc. that might keep any given person from being as fit as they’d like. Just get back to us when your knee or hip blows out, and let us know how those “lazy” people get fat from “poor choices,” OK? :rolleyes:
OP, I think you AND your trainer ROCK, so ride on and keep up the good work having FUN and post regularly as you make progress! 
