[QUOTE=Blume Farm;8138485]
I strongly suggest anyone looking to find a trainer for their horse to always go watch the trainer ride/ school at a horse show and at their own barn. Don’t look at dressage scores only to gauge success. Any trainer proud of their program will invite you to come watch them ride at home. In the past I have always scheduled to come at say 9am, but then show up at 8am saying something “I left some extra time incase I got lost and ended up getting here early” (as an aside I do this if looking at a horse to buy too). This way I can see a bit of how they do without being totally prepared.
If more people did that, and did not just rely on scores, situations like this would happen less frequently. If someone wants a bigger-name-trainer for their horse there are so many great ones out there that have none of this drama.[/QUOTE]
The bolded, just so you know, is super annoying to the honest people who are not going to screw you over.
I used to keep my 3 horses at a private 8 stall barn behind someone’s house. I was the only boarder and the owner had his own 4 horses. This barn was an hour and a half away from where I lived, but it was an architectural masterpiece, with vaulted ceilings, sky lights, 15’ x 18’ stalls, a heated washstall…the works. One of my horses was for sale, and I had secured permission to allow guests to come on the property to try the horse. So these yahoos scheduled an appointment to come see him and wanted to come in the morning. I told them to come at x time, but if they came earlier I would not be there due to the hour and a half commute.
Fully an hour before the scheduled time while I am driving down 78, I get a call from the owner of the property who graciously lets me board horses at his PRIVATE (!!) PALACE that he is looking out of his kitchen window and there are yahoos loose in the barn unsupervised. Since the only people who ride there are him and me, there is no one else there. No grooms, no staff, no one.The one person who rides there is trying to have breakfast with his family and the other person who rides there is driving down 78! Meanwhile the yahoos had taken it upon themselves to go down the hill and through several gates to access the barn, and upon finding it entirely empty, decided to just …remain milling about in someone else’s showpiece architecture rather than return to their vehicle.
So the owner of the property had to abort breakfast with his family and had to go down the hill to corral the yahoos and spend an hour babysitting them and saying pleasantries while I drove down 78 as fast as I possibly could.
When I arrived, I a.) was pissed, and b.) marched to the paddock, called the horse up from yon hill, led horse back to the barn, put him in his house to pee with a flake of hay, got his tack organized in the grooming stall, pulled him out, tacked him up, and said “He’s ready for you to get on now.”
That was the prep.
That was the BIG CONSPIRACY we had going on for this 14.3 Appendix QH I was selling.
People think they are being so slick when they say, “anybody who is honest will just give you free rein to show up at their place any time you want and poke around,” but actually, no. Boundaries still exist, for perfectly good and non-nefarious reasons.
Watch out when you are so slickly trying to play “gotcha” with someone and treating them from the outset like they are dishonest, because if they are honest, and it turns out that you really like them and how they ride, your FIRST impression on them will have been to act like a total boundary-disrespecting tool and to alienate them. If you actually DO find someone you like, good luck getting them to agree to work with you after that.