[QUOTE=Marla 100;8037356]
The BIG CLUE to me is that this horse did not exhibit these aggressive, explosive behaviors under saddle. She actually took him to a couple shows
where he was flighty, jumpy and showing his greeness. Not unusual for first few shows.
This all started when other people were handling an exuberant, flighty TB during turnout. IMO he gradually got worse and worse leaving the stall. No one properly corrected these outbursts or did anything to curtail them.
Then the OP got scared of him. He sensed this and the flighty, bad behavior continued.
Horses like this (flighty, insecure) need EXPERIENCED handlers to squash the behaviors. They need a leader, not a friend. And once they’ve escaped during an episode, like w/ the vet exam, they continue to try to escape UNTIL someone more experienced and more prepared teach them it’s not gonna happen again.
At this point, I think this horse has learned to bully his ground handlers. No one has stepped up to be the leader or the mean old teacher.
Yes, he can be a “sweetie” when he wants to but his work and manners ethics are out the window. He’s becoming semi-feral because no one is re-inforcing basic rules for him. Not so unusual for a smart, flighty horse.
OP needs to beg some old time trainer to put back some basic manners on him.
Just another example of a person who’s overhorsed, inexperienced and smart, strong horse is taking advantage of her.[/QUOTE]
I have to agree on the concept of a horse being handled by people that are not reinforcing good behavior. What I have found in situations where my horses are being handled by others is - they are in a hurry. This IMHO causes problems especially in younger horses.
I also agree horses need a leader but know they need a friend too. I have had a few insecure horses and being there for them has made the world of difference. Some horses I have had do better when I am a bit more distant. It really depends on the horse.
I wouldn’t blame the OP at this point because we don’t know and you even said yourself that you are suspecting OTHERS handling her horse could be some of the cause of this horses behavior - not necessarily the OP.
I do agree 100% with the thought of hiring a layup trainer type guy that is calm, quiet and has a lot of patience. I don’t go for the rough and tumbled kind of guy. I have seen amazing results from guys that are good leaders by being calm, quiet, direct and no fear but never mean.