I agree with you red mares, I don’t think you’ve been nasty… but I think you’re missing the point.
Here is how I see it, based upon our experience. Party A agrees to sell X to Party B based upon price and considerations. The consideration in this instance is that B will not change the name of the horse. B then changes the name of the horse. I am not going to argue whether this was a good or bad idea, it is what these parties agreed to. Party B changed the name of the horse, so it is a now matter of a breach of the agreement.
If people think that only written agreements are enforceable, they are wrong, but more on point, if they think that putting the agreement in writing guarantees that parties will abide by the terms, they are TOTALLY wrong. Those who think that a written contract is a guarantee of performance are totally inexperienced in business.
If a party to an agreement is not going to honor their word, it really doesn’t matter what’s in writing. Over the years we have had dozens of contractual agreements… at the end of the day, some people honor their word, and some do not. It does not matter what the agreement said, it is a matter of integrity. Chasing after liars and cheats in court is an expensive and frustrating proposition, even when you win in court.
At the heart of all of this is a simple matter of honor and integrity.
Personally, I don’t give a rat’s ass about emotion and tears, especially in relation to a stressful situation. People get uspet, they honestly show their emotions, so what? And in this instance it was a matter between friends, the tears and emotion expressed genuine feelings. So what? Nothing wrong with that at all. I think it’s really odd that people are so neurotic about showing normal human emotion. Tears, in this instance, were very normal.
The people I want to avoid in business are those who lie and cheat, and those who defend lying and cheating because it is acceptable to them. I would never do business with these types of people, they only create chaos and life is too short.