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I’m 25 weeks and also having a boy![/QUOTE]
So that makes you due around Sept 10 (ish)?
Ok. It’s likely just the hormones (isn’t everything blamed on hormones right now?) but I want to hug you all. Nickelodeon, drmgncolor, mscho, I am right there with all of you. Fergs! I am SO glad you checked in and glad that you are back in the saddle. You sound like you are doing well and that makes me :D!
I’m at 28 wks today and I actually found it a relief when a co-worker told me I look like she did at 9months (we’re having twins). I am growing so sick of people telling me how tiny I am. Yeah right tell that to my aching back and stomach muscles, sciatic pain, heel pain. etc… It feels like torture some days to watch everyone else getting to ride. My barn mates went on a super fun XC schooling weekend last week and took my greenie. He was a rock star, which I was so proud of, but I wanted to be the one to hop him over the baby jumps and do the water, darn it! On the other hand, I can’t wait to meet our boys and the reality of them actually being here and not in my belly is getting more and more exciting. I am just hoping I can make it through taking one of my students to a show in two weeks!
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I thought the exact same thing when I read her post. I turn 23 weeks tomorrow.
Nickelodian and I are having boys. And we also determined we both have the same first name via PM. WEIRD!
It’s so nice to have fellow horsewoman on this journey with me. Thanks, ladies.
My father-in-law told my DH when he announced our pregnancy that he was actually relieved my mare was lame and out of commission. But I can’t say that I blame him. With our first pregnancy back in 2008, we actually found out about our miscarriage because I was in a riding accident at 13 weeks pregnant. The accident didn’t cause the miscarriage, but it sure has made me a bit more cautious this time around. I haven’t been on a horse since about 13 weeks and even then I was only doing light work. I did finish out the ski season though and even then I skied much slower and more cautious. I kept my distance from any and all trees and pretty much anyone else on skis or a board.[/QUOTE]
We picked a name that goes both ways…so if your name starts with an R we might all have group ESP! 
I snowboarded before we found out (probably 6-7 ish weeks) and our two families had such different reactions when we announced-His didn’t even remember that just a few weeks ago I had been snowboarding and mountain biking, they were too busy giving guilt trips around my plan to keep riding for the time being (seriously, I’ve posted before about my MIL, but holy crap…she even posted this passive aggressive crap on FB about parenting meaning you give up things for you in order to give your kid the best life possible! This from a woman who didn’t take her kid to the dentist after he was FIVE because she just didn’t want to…but I digress lol).
My family didn’t even think about riding-they were freaked out I had been snowboarding 
lol guess I should take that as a compliment on my riding skills verses my snowboarding skills!
hmmm if you all are thinking a name that starts with R and ends with Y that is too crazy! That was our top pick for a name until DH’s best friend named his daughter (they didn’t know that was one of our names).
In other news, my old man horse had a little bout of colic last night. He is OK but I am an emotional mess about him today! I don’t own him anymore but he is teaching up down kids at the barn I teach at so they called me when we was acting off. I didn’t realize how much I wanted him around to teach my boys until he almost wasn’t. Oh the hormones! I am so glad he is OK I think he is going to get a new halter today. Retail therapy!
It makes me feel soooo much better (and normal!) to hear about everyone else’s conflicting struggles. I have to keep reminding myself that I wanted this really badly, because it’s freaking hard and the end result continues to terrify me. I despise when people ask me if I’m “so excited” because yes, I’m sometimes excited, but not really in an overly enthusiastic kind of way, you know?
I’m a few weeks behind most of you, so I’m looking forward to all of you telling me this fall when your babies are born that it was totally worth it.
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Nickelodian and I are having boys. And we also determined we both have the same first name via PM. WEIRD! [/QUOTE]
I’m sorry for the confusion. I meant that Nickelodian and I actually have the same first name. A name that’s only recently become common (IMO) thanks to a couple of recent successful movies. And while I gave a hint in a previous post at what I am thinking about naming my son, it doesn’t start with an R (or end in a Y). :winkgrin:
Okay ladies, I have a TMI question.
I did just leave a message with the nurse’s station with my doctor but I’m not going to cross my fingers on getting a call back on a Friday afternoon. I have not had my first appointment yet as that is scheduled for June 9.
Starting yesterday and continuing today, I feel like I’m having a small period. So much so that I had to put in a tampon yesterday night, and just put one in now because it’s getting heavy enough to need one. Did anyone else experience that? I’m maybe about 7 weeks along.
I have a MAYO baby book that I’ve been referencing, and of course I did a Google search, and I’ve read that this can happen normally or it can be a sign that something is wrong.
Just wondering how worried I should be about this? This is my first one so I have zero idea what to expect.
I can’t ask my mom because I planned on telling them face-to-face this weekend, so she doesn’t know yet!
First - don’t use tampons. pads only. It could be normal or it could be a m/c.
You need to call the Ob back and tell the front desk you had a positive pregnancy test and are now bleeding. They should get back with your right away/get you on the phone with a nurse.
I don’t want to worry you, but you do need to get in touch with someone.
I second Nickelodian. Call back.
And good luck, hugs and please report back!
beau - checking in. How are you?
Heaven gained another little angel on Friday night.
I probably wouldn’t be quite so shaken up about it if I didn’t see the baby with my own eyes, but I knew exactly what it was when I saw it. It was about an inch long, or a little bigger. At least I think my eyes have finally run out of tears to cry, for the most part, but that image will always be burned in my mind.
I had gone if for a blood draw on Friday afternoon, as that’s all they and I had time for (I rushed over there in-between my own patients.) My levels were lower than they expected but it was still hopeful and they had set me up for an appointment right away this morning. Of course, after what happened on Friday evening, the baby obviously is already gone. Now it’s just a matter of confirming it and maybe trying to figure out what went wrong. The nurse/doctor didn’t have time to talk to me this morning yet, but they will be calling me later to set something up. So I still don’t know what happened, nor if they will be able to tell what happened. Being this was our very first one, both me and hubby are completely clueless to the whole process.
It just all happened so quickly. My little angel was exactly 7 weeks along, and I had only known I was “for sure” pregnant for 1 week. But I guess if God said it wasn’t time, then there’s a reason for it.
Big hugs. It may not make you feel any better, but early m/c are very very common. I don’t know that as a society we talk about this much, but if you talk with your close girlfriends, I bet you’ll find many of them have had a miscarriage at some point - I was surprised when we went through it how many folks had been through the same pain. Talk with your doctor: an early m/c does not necessarily mean you did anything wrong or that you’ll have any issues getting pregnant and carrying to term in the future.
Be kind to yourself.
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Heaven gained another little angel on Friday night.
I probably wouldn’t be quite so shaken up about it if I didn’t see the baby with my own eyes, but I knew exactly what it was when I saw it. It was about an inch long, or a little bigger. At least I think my eyes have finally run out of tears to cry, for the most part, but that image will always be burned in my mind.
I had gone if for a blood draw on Friday afternoon, as that’s all they and I had time for (I rushed over there in-between my own patients.) My levels were lower than they expected but it was still hopeful and they had set me up for an appointment right away this morning. Of course, after what happened on Friday evening, the baby obviously is already gone. Now it’s just a matter of confirming it and maybe trying to figure out what went wrong. The nurse/doctor didn’t have time to talk to me this morning yet, but they will be calling me later to set something up. So I still don’t know what happened, nor if they will be able to tell what happened. Being this was our very first one, both me and hubby are completely clueless to the whole process.[/QUOTE]
I am so sorry to hear your confirmation. I’ve been thinking about you this weekend and talked to DH on Friday about how sad I was for you. I know you are grieving and I am not in any way shape or form trying to minimize that grief by telling you that unfortunately, what you have experienced is extremely common. However, please know there are many women everywhere who have been (or are now) exactly where you are. I’ve been there multiple times myself and DH and I were just as clueless as you when we suffered our first miscarriage. So… I very much empathize with you.
It’s unlikely they will ever really know what occurred (they never did with mine) but I believe that most evidence in early miscarriage points to chromosomal abnormalities that make the fetus not viable for life.
Our society does not like to talk about miscarriage and many times the expectant parents are left to suffer in silence. Which is why you don’t hear too much about it until it happens to you and then people come out of the woodwork to share their stories… and most go on to have healthy and successful pregnancies in the future.
Please make sure to comfort your DH, as often times it is overlooked that he has also has suffered a loss.
My sincere condolences.
Beau - I echo what has already been said. M/C is a very common occurrence and yet knowing that makes it no less heartbreaking. It’s also hard because likely given this is your first one, they will do nothing and write it off to chromosomal issues. Likely, that is actually the case, and your next will go off without a hitch.
There are others on this board who have been where you are, myself included. It is very hard, but know you are not alone.
So sorry for your loss.
For everyone that has struggled as we have as being horsewoman and expecatnt mommies, there is a blogger that is writing about her experience.
http://www.horsenation.com/2015/06/01/new-series-expecting-and-eventing/
I haven’t been blogging for a multitude of reasons, but I could have written this word for word.
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Heaven gained another little angel on Friday night[/QUOTE]
No words, just wanted to say I’m so so sorry for your loss. Jingles for you and your other.
Nick, I too, could have written this word for word, right down to the 4yo mare just starting to go well under saddle. She’s now enjoying her time as a four year old pasture puff 
Thanks for sharing the blog, I’ll be following. Interesting that so many equestrians feel this way. I guess not many other hobbies/sport/lifestyles have so much invested in them - emotionally, financially and time wise.
Thank you everyone for the kind words. I have been surprised (talking with other people about it) about how common it seems to be to have a miscarriage. Of course, I still wish it didn’t happen.
I’m a little surprised to hear that my doctor wants me to wait 2 to 3 months before trying again. I guess I’m new to this, but that seems like a long time to have to wait again.
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Interesting that so many equestrians feel this way. I guess not many other hobbies/sport/lifestyles have so much invested in them - emotionally, financially and time wise.[/QUOTE]
I think there are a lot of women in other hobbies/sports/lifestyles where there are similar emotional, financial and time commitments who feel the exact same way we do. I personally just think that many women don’t admit to these feelings because we are women and aren’t we supposed to be all hunky dory with being knocked up?! :winkgrin:
I have other hobbies outside of riding that are also on hold (I backpack and mtn bike and love to travel, for example). And even if I had zero hobbies, I’d still be concerned about the financial burdens this will place… we haven’t until now had to really think about life insurance, wills, beneficiaries, college savings, etc. I can’t image any woman NOT being scared sh!tless about the financial aspects of pro-creating and how it will affect their own interests.
[QUOTE=beau159;8174998]Thank you everyone for the kind words. I have been surprised (talking with other people about it) about how common it seems to be to have a miscarriage. Of course, I still wish it didn’t happen.
I’m a little surprised to hear that my doctor wants me to wait 2 to 3 months before trying again. I guess I’m new to this, but that seems like a long time to have to wait again.[/QUOTE]
I believe they want you to have 2 normal periods to make sure your body and hormones are back on track. I’ve known women who caught on that first cycle though and had success. I think it all depends, but I would take my doctor’s advice.
I’ve found that pregnancy and babies have their own timeline. And the whole process likes to give you the middle finger occasionally so you remember you aren’t really in charge.
I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and please keep us all updated on YOU!
beau159, hugs and jingles to you and Mr. beau. DH and I went through something similar, what I believe were two very early miscarriages. It’s never easy, even if it is common. I believe the reason they want you to wait is your risk of ectopic pregnancy is higher if there is remaining tissue in your system, and they want you to go through a couple cycles to clear that risk. Lots of hugs to you.
