Many hugs to you, Kim.
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Thinking of you Kim, I love that you have your ex in your corner. My friend who survived stage 4 said the doctors asked why she didnât notice her back hurt and she was tiredâŠshe said Iâm 60 and have two teenagers (she adopted) and a full time job of course I am always tired! LOL She also had a back problem her whole life. The cancer she had was typical for a black man who was a heavy smokerâŠso you just never know!
sending hugs
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Thinking of you Kim. Pony club or therapeutic riding center are excellent ideas for your donations. Wishing you strength and peace.
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Thinking of you this morning, Kim.
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Jingles and cyber hugs {{{{hug}}}}
Donate your tack and clothes to a pony club, therapeutic riding center or horse rescue who can sell for funds.
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It sure is nice to come here and feel the love.
Spring is here, well more like summer! LOL Warm temps almost 80 monday,and tues.
Warm yesterday and great rain last night with thunder storms and still raining. Man things are greening and popping.
I LOVe this time of year.
I do not even know if there is a pony club in my area. I will search. I do know of a therapeutic program that is a great one. The things I want to find specific homes for are my Tipperary vest. Never fallen with. I have a Brand new, I bought 2 years ago Charles Owen helmet. My Ariat Crowne Boots. Used for maybe 6 or seven shows.
Grand Prix Half Chaps, A brand new bridle. I bought before Truman died. Brand new never worn tuff rider breeches.
Never worn hunt coat, and one in great shape. And the thing that breaks my heart the most, my Stubben Edelweiss saddle. The most comfortable saddle I have ever had. it was almost a yr hunt to find it, and man I adored it.
itâs a 17and 1/2 Medium wide. And in awesome shape. When I sat in that for my trainer she said FINALLY your leg is in the right place! :lol:
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Here is the âfind a clubâ page for Pony Club:
https://www.ponyclub.org/FindPonyClub/Map.aspx
I think donating things to Pony Club is a great idea. However, if you need money to help pay for medical bills, do you have a friend who can sell this stuff for you on Ebay or facebook or even at a consignment store?
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This^^ . A co-worker got accepted into a clinical trial at the Cleveland Clinic when her breast cancer re-occurred. (for the third time? I canât quite remember.) It was for a drug that is now a well known treatment. She actually decided to pull out of the trial because of side effects. She is still cancer free nine (?) years after the trial. They are still tracking her because she didnât finish the trial and has not had a reoccurrence of her disease.
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This sounds so much like my husband. Starting last spring he had no energy. Prior to that he constantly had tons of projects. Multiple doctors visits. Diagnosed with thyroid issues- it runs in the family so no suprise. But the meds arenât working and some other blood numbers came up funky. Diagnosed with multiple myeloma (MM) with kidney involvement in early December. At this point he was taking daily multiple hour naps in the afternoon and normally sleeping most of Sunday. He got winded easily. He lost a lot of weight since nothing tasted good. He went through a period where he only wanted BBQ chicken and rice.
He had been on 2 types of chemo since January 2018 and dialysis since February. He is now napping less and has more energy. The first chemo was oral plus twice weekly injections in the abdomen. Chemo for the last 5 weeks has been a once a week IV infusion that lasts hours plus 2 oral meds. He still has his hair. He had one day of nausea and vomiting but I had it the next day too so it likely was from a flu type thing not the chemo. Other than bruising from shots and IVs and some fluid retention from the steroids he has had no negative side effects. One of the chemo drugs is dexamethosone so that helps give him an energy boost for a few days after he has it. Thankfully he isnât one of those that gets irritable from steriods and isnât causing him insomnia.
He is working almost full time, some from home, some at dialysis and some in the office. In the last month he has gone into the office more than he had in the first 3 months of the year combined. It is nice to see some of his energy coming back. Donât get me wrong he isnât anywhere close to where he was a year ago but he is so much improved compared to what he was from October to February. He is aiming for an autologous stem cell transplant in the next couple of months. They have to know back the active MM enough before they can do a SCT.
In my long winded way I am saying donât discount the chemo because you are already tired. Not all chemo makes you lose your hair or makes you sicker before you feel better. Knocking back the cancer and the tumors with chemo may make you feel better. I know the type of cancer my husband has is totally different but wanted to share his experience with you.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do. I am finding DH being so sick pretty overwhelming. I am sure you and your ex are both going through the same thoughts.
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Thanks Sonnysmom for that. I am hoping that this oncologist will have something that can beat it back or slow it some.
That is if I ever get to see him. Find I have no more patience, LOL gee My life could be slipping away to get an appointment.
Kim, whoâs working on getting the appointment? Is the kind, persistent nurse working on it? Are you calling? I wouldnât be patient about it.
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I believe it is the nurse, She emailed me yesterday, I will call her tomorrow and ask what is up.
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Just saw your thread and Iâm so sorry. What a journey! Iâm glad you took (are taking)time to ponder, as if we donât get a say in this part of our lives, when do we? This process is yours!
I hope your oncologist turns out to be a rock, someone accessible and warm and clear about the options are. someone who is authentic and honest andâŠjust thinking about one of my husbandâs who I adored.
Iâm glad you have your exâfunny how people cycle and recycle through our lives! Glad for the better weather and sunshine and green things popping out all over!
sounds like you have done some good planning about your four footers. I have the same plan for one of mineâto go down with me as he is a tough cookieâthe light of my life but not a personality others would tolerate and the thought of him ever being mistreated scares me to death (he lives in splendor but in isolation). That said, if you ever decide you donât want to put Handsome or your girl down, just know I (probably others) would be more than happy to take and spoil them for the rest of their lives. I totally and completely mean thatâwell familiar with elderly kitty issues and am Iâm a death do us part kind of girl! As I said, totally get and support your choice, but if you wanted an option, consider that you have one.
Anyway, yay for the sun and for gardening. And blueberry muffins if you can stand them (!!) We did a lot of tapioca pudding and my most bestest (and really easy, no machine involved) strawberry ice cream. And yummy Boost.
Will think good thoughts for your nurse getting that appointment for you!!!
COTH is just fucking amazing.
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Sannois, I donât know where you live, but YOU can call for an appointment. These can be easy or hard to get, depending on where you live (big metro or smaller). I got on the phone and got appts going in more than one place - you can always cancel.
Do not make assumptions about your situation: what treatment you need, how you will do.
Lots of people are really not well when they start chemo: they have heart trouble, are diabetic, ⊠As a rider, I am guessing you are in relatively good shape compared to the greater population.
I had to go to cancer education, and that scared me to death. I was sure I would die from the treatment itself. It was all off base - I wish I had skipped the education class completely.
Get your energy directed to finding the right clinic/dr/-- to treat you. This is absolutely the most important thing. Travel several hours away from your home if you need to.
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What an incredibly awesome thing to say. And what a wonderful uplifting post.
I was always with all my cats a Death do us part girl. Handsome is the cat from special class. All his life.
He nearly died 2 years ago of a broken heart when his Sister died unexpectedly from Kidney Cancer.
I can barely get him to the vet because he went hypertensive the last time, Vet said my god his blood pressure is elevated. the inside of his ears and his nose and pads were bright red. Poor man.
He has gotten much worse with the night time crying, and confusion. He is looking for me, and my house is tiny.
Sevy, well she is a real sad sack, but I am so glad I did give her a chance to see that people can be kind.
I so appreciate your kindness.
Totally agree with your last sentence. 
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Morning Kim ~
Always in my thoughts ~
Youâve got friends !
- watch that back doorstep today *
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Awww Zu, you are first rate.
Feeling crappy today, Just sapped energy, and unfortunately pain.
sorry to read of your awful discomfort âŠ
- with little knowledge of this ⊠so just an idea
have you tried ICE âŠpacks coupled with REST
- I have learned ice can relieve many types of discomforts at least temporarily âŠworth a try âŠ
((hugs)) laced with strength and patience and a horse van of COMFORT ~
Jingles & AO for a better afternoon ~
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I wish Ice would help, it is internal.
I donât know the protocol for what youâre dealing with, but I wanted to add that my most favorite docs were the palliative care folks. I had thought that palliative meant hospice which it does not. The palliative folks were FANTASTIC and kept my husband working full time for a long time. One can get treatment or not and still get a referral, as when it comes to pain and doing what you love doing, theyâre all about it!! They were far better than even the oncologist. Pain is no fun at all but it is something they can at least help with!
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