Originally posted by anthem35:
Last of all, I do have one question…
Have any of you actually spoken WITH Paul, and given him at least an opportunity to apologize?
Anthem, I appreciate your rational input into this discussion, although I don’t agree with your position. I wanted to address this though…
I, certainly have not spoken to Mr. Valliere. I don’t even know how to do so. I have been asked by members of the media how to contact him, since they tell me his phone is unlisted and they also don’t have contact information for them (although Nancy Jaffer did succeed in getting him to speak with her - and I’m not sure he served himself well doing so, from a PR standpoint…but I’m not Mason Phelps, I practice PR quite differently, and I digress…)
So, as one of “the little people” I don’t know how to contact him…and I don’t particularly want to. See, this ISN’T about whether or not Mr. Valliere is remorseful (which, given the tone of his comments, doesn’t come through to the average reader…) nor even about whether or not he has fulfilled the letter - or the spirit - of his suspension.
For me, this is about what is and is not acceptable practices that the governing body of my sport will allow. And I do not believe that the governing body should ever permit the destruction of the horses that are the only reason this sport exists - for fraudulent, illegal purposes - to be condoned. Period.
So, for me, there isn’t any way in which Mr. Valliere can “apologize” that would make me say “oh, heck, he’s not that bad, it’s a long time, let him in.” Because, as I’ve been quoted as saying, some things MAY be forgivable, but that doesn’t mean they should be forgotten.
Mr. Valliere made a very, very, very poor choice. He made it freely, and he has admitted making it, and he must live with the consequences. People make bad choices all the time, and they live with the consequences every day. It’s not easy, but that’s the way it goes.
Whether or not Mr. Valliere is a skilled trainer isn’t the issue…I have never and will never believe that the ends justify the means. The journey - whether it be to win a class or through one’s life - really IS what it’s about.
Mr. Valliere’s journey is one I cannot respect. You can – that’s not something I’m able to get my brain around, but that’s your choice, not mine. I do give people second chances, but not if what they’ve done is something I consider to be non-negotiable. And, should I ever screw up to that extent, I’d expect to be treated the same. There are standards for me which one cannot violate without incurring dire penalties.
Some things in life just are not acceptable. This is one of them for me, and for many other people. You feel differently. I can’t understand that, I don’t “agree” with it, but I can accept it. But because I DO think some things are just non-negotiable in terms of acceptance, an apology - to me, at least - isn’t necessary. One to the horses who died, and to the industry, though, might have been nice…but it would need to be in a different tone, I think than what has been seen so far.
(edited to attempt to clarify…)