I just read my last post and want to be clear on something. When I talk about not ‘offending those who may have louder voices and more clout’ etc I am in no way suggesting that our voices are not important and we don’t want to risk upsetting the big boys. Trust me anyone who knows me will tell ya that just ain’t the case!
Maybe this little story will clarify what I am trying (desperatly) to say-
I had a client once who was getting a divorce, we at the barn had been witness to some of her husbands less than ideal behavior and supported her and really did feel she was justified in what she was doing. She had days where she was understandably down or angry or frustrated, but she always maintained some sense of logic and reason about the situation.
We had a barn party where the husband and father of the child attended. It was a bit unexpected as he was not a big presence at the barn- but he did have the right to be there and while he was there he was polite, civil and his actions and demeanor were acceptable for the situation.
I suppose she felt like he was intruding on her last refuge or maybe she had just had a bad day or whatever- but this gal lost her mind. She became upset, a little verbally rude and not to rational.
Now those of us that knew what had been happening kinda understood, but the way she came off to those that were not really in the know was not good and was not a true representation of how she was and had been actually handling the situation. Those people saw her behavior at that one point and time and formed the opinion that maybe this was how she was all the time and it made them feel for the husband (who really was a toad). Some of the people who did support her had some doubts as well once they saw or heard about the (relatively minor) ruckus. She lost some credibility and I am sure to some people the opinion formed at that moment never changed because they never were around much before or after that display. It was kind of the attitude of ‘well he may be a jackass, but she ain’t looking all that easy to get along with either’ so people just remained in neutral. Hard to know who to support when both sides look less than desirable.
That is something we don’t want to happen here, we don’t want to seem so over the top that it scares people to be associated with our ‘side’. The facts are the facts, they speak for themselves, if the NGB was not aware of the opposition to reinstatement before, they are now. Keep it on the front burner- yes, but don’t make the flame so hot that people back away.
We see it on the BB in several ‘hot’ topics- slaughter, drugging, draw reins etc- people will ask a question, there will be replies that are informative or offer opinions, then there will be someone (there is one in every crowd) that comes across so strong, so absolute, so black and white, so over the top that they lose all credibility and are labled a fanatic or the slaughter, draw rein etc police, and it turns people off, it pisses them off. Same thing when someone ‘hijacks’ a somewhat related subject and turns it into yet another way to preach their views. How many times did Roulett (and others I am sure) get accused of this? What was the reaction and the ultimate feelings that resulted? I see trying to connect this issue with the program on t.v as hijacking and fear it will be recieved the same way as it is on the BB. Shoving something down someones throat at any and every opportunity no matter how right you may be or think you may be rarely works to draw people to your line of thinking, so they tune you out and then your message, which may be a damn good one is lost due to the way it was presented.
There- clear as mud?