I’ve only bred one litter of puppies, but I can assure you, those 6 puppies represented a tremendous amount of time, money and effort. Hopefully this will give you an idea as to why breeders can seem stupid about placing their puppies.
I jumped through quite a few hoops to obtain their mother - a show quality bitch. Then invested almost two years in finishing her championship. Then jumped thru even more hoops to get her bred. First breeding to AM/CAN Grand Champion via AI came up empty. Tried again 6 months later to a 2 time National Specialty winner. Drove 7 hours to get to the stud dog.
Her puppies were delivered via C-Section. First two weeks, my husband and I took turns with 24/7 supervision of the litter. Each puppy was weighed, measured & results recorded every day for the first 4 weeks. After 4 weeks, they were weighed, measured & wormed weekly, along with stacked pictures of every angle for each puppy. Then visits to my vet for their vaccinations, as well as samples collected and sent for genetic testing. Hours and hours and hours were spent handling, observing, documenting and interacting with these puppies.
And yes, per my contract with the stud dog owner, I was required to keep all the puppies until they were 16 weeks old so she could make 2nd pick selection from the litter. All my puppy buyers signed contracts that specified my responsibilities, such as health guarantees, and their responsibilities - mainly to provide appropriate home and notify me if they ever need re-home for any reason.
Only one puppy went to a first-timer to the breed. They had been waiting for over a year, had reached out to several breeders in our community, and were well-educated on the requirements of the breed. They drove over 22 hours (from Maine to Kentucky) to pick up their puppy from me.
So again, I hope this gives you some perspective from the breeder’s side. It is gut-wrenching to let those puppies go, but also wonderfully rewarding to see them do well in their new homes. I think, ultimately, that is what most good breeders sincerely want for their puppies.