I can’t keep up. Was she shot twice or three times?
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Depends on the day!!
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I was totally about to ask that, I am so confused about that.
Also in case anyone was wondering and couldn’t read the hashtag IG snip:
laurenkana: “What song do you want” #golddigger #rap #expectinghamilton #horseswhohaveopinions #dwb #fei #usdf #usef #nightimelullabies #myheart #myeverything #barisonedressage #sittinginajailcell #fatheroflies #do #notsay #examplesmustbemade #dontcarewhoyouare #howstupiddoyoufeelnowMH :lol::lol: #shootherorimleaving #didntworkouthowyouplanned #inbredaward #iamME #queen #theoneandonly #laurenkanarek #keeptryingthoughMH #dumbesttrainertodubherself trainer"
…That escalated quickly.
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1. Frequent Lies and Exaggerations
Both narcissists and gaslighters are prone to frequent lies and exaggerations (about themselves and others), and have the tendency of lifting themselves up by putting others down. While narcissists often strive to make themselves seem superior and “special” by showing off, bragging, taking undeserved credit, and other forms of self-aggrandizement, gaslighters tend to concentrate on making you feel inferior through false accusations, constant criticism, and psychological intimidation. Both narcissists and gaslighters can be adept at distortion of facts, deliberate falsehoods, character assassinations, and negative coercions. One key difference is that while the narcissist lies and exaggerates to boost their fragile self-worth, the gaslighter does so to augment their domination and control.
2. Rarely Admit Flaws and Are Highly Aggressive When Criticized
Many narcissists and gaslighters have thin skin and can react poorly when called to account for their negative behavior. When challenged, the narcissist is likely to either fight (e.g., temper tantrum, excuse-making, denial, blame, hypersensitivity, etc.) or take flight (bolt out the door, avoidance, silent treatment, sulking resentment, or other forms of passive-aggression). The gaslighter nearly always resorts to escalation by doubling or tripling down on their false accusations or coercions, to intimidate or oppress their opponent. Many gaslighters view relationships as inherently competitive rather than collaborative; a zero-sum game where one is either a winner or a loser, on top or at the bottom. “Offense is the best defense” is a mantra for many gaslighters, which also represents their aggressive method of relating to people.
3. False Image projection
Both narcissists and gaslighters tend to project false, idealized images of themselves to the world, in order to hide their inner insecurities. Many narcissists like to impress others by making themselves look good externally. This “trophy complex" can exhibit itself physically, romantically, sexually, socially, religiously, financially, materially, professionally, academically, or culturally. The underlying message of this display is: “I’m better than you!” or “Look at how special I am — I’m worthy of everyone’s love, admiration, and acceptance!”
Gaslighters, on the other hand, often create an idealized self-image of being the dominant, suppressive alpha male or female in personal relationships, at the workplace, or in high-profile positions of society (such as politics and media). Many gaslighters like to view themselves falsely as all-powerful and strong, capable of dishing out judgments and penalties at will. Pathological gaslighters often take pride and boost themselves up by marginalizing those whom they perceive as weaker, believing that the meek deserve their downtrodden fate. They attack their victims with direct or subtle cruelty and contempt, gaining sadistic pleasure from these offenses, and betraying a lack of empathy and humanity.
In essence, narcissists want others to worship them, while gaslighters want others to submit to them. In a big way, these external facades become pivotal parts of their false identities, replacing the real and insecure self.
4. Rule Breaking and Boundary Violation
Many narcissists and gaslighters enjoy getting away with violating rules and social norms. Examples of narcissistic trespass include cutting in line, chronic under-tipping, personal space intrusion, borrowing items without returning, using other’s properties without asking, disobeying traffic laws, breaking appointments, and negating promises. Examples of gaslighting trespass include direct or subtle marginalizing remarks, public or private shaming and humiliation, sardonic humor and sarcastic comments, internet trolling, angry and hateful speech, and virulent attacks on undesirable individuals and groups.
Both narcissist and gaslighter boundary violations presume entitlement, with a narrow, egocentric orientation that oppresses and de-humanizes their victims. In severe cases, this boundary violation pathology may result in illicit and underhanded dealings, financial abuse, sexual harassment, date rape, domestic abuse, hate crimes, human rights violations, and other forms of criminality. Many narcissists and gaslighters take pride in their destructive behaviors, as their machinations provide them with a hollow (and desperate) sense of superiority and privilege.
5. Emotional Invalidation and Coercion
Although narcissists and gaslighters can be (but are not always) physically abusive, for the majority of their victims, emotional suffering is where the damage is most painfully felt. Both narcissists and gaslighters enjoy spreading and arousing negative emotions in order to feel powerful, and keep you insecure and off-balance. They habitually invalidate others’ thoughts, feelings, and priorities, showing little remorse for causing people in their lives pain. They often blame their victims for having caused their own victimization (“You wouldn’t get yelled at if you weren’t so stupid!”).
In addition, many narcissists and gaslighters have unpredictable mood swings and are prone to emotional drama — you never know what might displease them and set them off. They become upset at any signs of independence and self-affirmation (“Who do you think you are!?”). They turn agitated if you disagree with their views or fail to meet their expectations. As mentioned earlier, they are sensitive to criticism, but quick to judge others. By keeping you down and making you feel inferior, they boost their fragile ego, and feel more reassured about themselves.
6. Manipulation: The Use or Control of Others as an Extension of Oneself
Both narcissists and gaslighters have a tendency to make decisions for others to suit their own agenda. Narcissists may use their romantic partner, child, family, friend, or colleague to meet unreasonable self-serving needs, fulfill unrealized dreams, or cover-up weaknesses and shortcomings. Narcissists are also fond of using guilt, blame, and victimhood as manipulative devices.
Gaslighters conduct psychological manipulation toward individuals and groups through persistent distortion of the truth, with the intention of causing their victims to question themselves and feel less confident. In personal and/or professional environments, they manipulate by micromanaging (controlling) relationships, including telling others how they should think, feel, and behave under the gaslighter’s unreasonable restrictions and scrutiny. They often become critical, angry, intimidating, and/or hostile toward those who fail to bow down to their directives. Gaslighter manipulation is often highly aggressive, with punitive measures (tangible or psychological) executed toward those who fail to recognize and obey their self-perceived authority.
Perhaps the biggest distinction between narcissists and gaslighters is that narcissists use and exploit, and gaslighters dominate and control. While the narcissist does so to compensate for a desperate sense of deficiency (of being unloved as the real self), the gaslighter does so to hide their ever-present insecurity (of being powerless and losing control). Both of these pathological types betray an inability and/or unwillingness to relate to people genuinely and equitably as human beings. They become “special” and “superior” by being less human and by de-humanizing others.
In the worst-case scenario, some individuals possess traits of both narcissism and gaslighting. This is a highly toxic and destructive combination of vanity, manipulation, bullying, and abuse — all unleashed in order to compensate for the perpetrator’s deep-seated sense of inadequacy and fear.
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Wow! That, IMO, was totally uncalled for! Some of these posts have taken a really obnoxious tone. Obviously, many here are highly entertained while LK is providing more information. Apparently, some for the wrong reason. Like LK or not, but who does not want to hear her side? Or MB’s? If you are not interested in what she has to say, why visit this forum? Just wondering. I would hope that most of us are just interested in more information to make sense of it all.
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Apparently LaLa has moved to FB where she feels more in control with her supporters defending her. There must have been too many questions here that became uncomfortable for her, like "did you play ANY part in the events that resulted in August 7th, or why are you still living in MB’s home and checking his mail?
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When was that posted?
FB said she has been staying at a hotel, but visiting the house/apartment, and that the owner has been asking when she’ll be moving back in. Yep- I looked. It’s public.
Friends are telling her to leave, but it’s prepaid!
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She recently changed it. It is dated Aug 5, but originally was full of hashtags loving #Barisone Dressage, best trainers ever and the like.
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:eek:
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Owners are DEFINITELY NOT asking her when she will be moving back in, they are asking when they are getting their crap out!! Not prepaid, because they were NOT paying!
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Last edited by haleybot; Sep. 8, 2019, 06:53 PM. Reason: Edited bc people thought it was low to write a profession I had heard she had. That’s where I heard her $$ came from
Why bother editing when your reason for editing just repeated the lowbrow rude comment you already made? This thread is sinking even lower - congratulations!
Yep - and LK is not the only one steering it into that UFO. Some of the comments here from a select few posters are… overwrought, disgusting and just plain sad… pushing away from the keyboard is always an option, folks.
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What “owners”? Has MB been released on bond? :eek:
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I was using LK’s wording. Why do you think MB is out on bond?
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Agreed…there are a lot of things said about LK but I’ve never heard (or believe) what Haleybot stated. Most of us posting have first or second hand knowledge of her behavior. While I agree she is a despicable person, bashing someone with lies is acting just like the person being discussed.
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No, I don’t. Go back several pages to the comments about who owns the farm/house. Barisone is listed as the owner of record along with an LLC. She is still blowing smoke.
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I am fully aware she is blowing smoke! I know who owns the farm.
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I thought it was interesting that she didn’t answer my questions several pages ago—I even tagged her.
I think they were too benign…
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Ouch! My comment was directed more to Calista17. Sorry.
I know as well. Again, if you read my post, that was from LKs FB page. I have been following along, as well as probably her 5 attorneys and everyone else watching COTH.
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